i have a real tough question. im in a relationship ryt now 4 like a yr. we are long distance relationship and to tell you, yes it is hard. i am 16 years old and my bf is also the same age as mine. yes i know you myt think im 2 young to be soo serious. but its really hard for me to just leave it all behind. this relationship is very imprtant to me and it chnged my life a lot. thnks to him. we dnt see each other much often as normal. i now live in japan and he is in the philippines. i am soo deprssd right cos i cant deal with argumnts, pains, nid of his touch, and sumtyms horniness. im scared of him whenever he gets mad at me, thats how he is when he is stress and depress. i know he is. so i learn to cope up with his illness. but what ab8 me? sumtyms i wnt him to undrstand that not always i can help him, dat sumtyms i nid sum1 2 treat me like a baby. i knw he can. but sumtyms the pain insyd me jst wnt go away. i kept on rmmbring it the othr day. its like i jst kip it. i need help pls :(Depressions in long distance relationship?
Long distance relationships are hard to begin with, but in your situation you have so many things going against it.
The one thing that stand out is, even at a long distance you are afraid of him when he gets mad. – not a good sign of things to come when/if you guys get together in person.
If he has problems he needs to get help in medication counseling and not take it out on you (or others)
Also…
Relationships need to be equal. If you help him and take care of him at times. He needs to be able to do the same for you when you need it.
Also…
I believe you can have serious feelings at your age - but your age is going to be part of the problem since neither of you have the ability to earn a lot of money , travel freely back and forth to see each other or move to be with each other. – So you are looking at 2 more years until you are 18 and have the ability to be out on your own (and with him if you chose)
So.. Unless he gets help for his depression/anger, Unless he is able to take care of you and treat you as you treat him, and Unless you can wait for 2 more years (all of which is a LOT to overcome) – this is not a good relationship for you.
Sorry, I know that’s not what you want to hear. But I think from what you said, “sumtyms the pain insyd me jst wnt go away. i kept on rmmbring it the othr day. its like i jst kip it.” -- You know this too.Depressions in long distance relationship?
Wow...this is really not the place for text speak...or whatever that was.
As to your question:
Does your BF have depression issues? A mental illness like bipolar or anything? If so, encourage him to get help for it. If he refuses, get out of the ';relationship.'; It's not healthy for you at all. You should not be afraid of your BF. I am concerned for your well-being.
As you said, there is not much you can do from so far away. You are a bit too young to be so serious since you can't just up and go visit him. Long-distance can work, but you have to be able to visit once in a while. Otherwise, it's just too hard.
I know exactly what your going through...I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year, and we lived fairly far from each other...and he had anger problems. Every time he would freak out on me, I wouldn't know what to do. That is the reason we just ended our relationship, its because i was scared of what could happen in the future. Those kind of people never change...I suggest you move on hun.. Yes it will be tough, its still tough for me even though I don't really love him that much anymore, but there are soo many people out there that will always respect you!
Good luck!
Melonie--
Friday, August 20, 2010
Long distance relationship advice?
My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship.
We've been dating for over 2 years, and at the beginning of September he left for college.
I drove down to visit him over a weekend in mid-October.
The week or so before I saw him I started to feel distant from him emotionally, but once I saw him, everything was fine and was until this week. I'm starting to feel distant again. We talk just about every night, and I don't understand why I feel this way.
Maybe because it's not the same as him being here talking to me face to face. I'm not sure.
But I don't know how to deal with this feeling.
Some days I feel like complete crap, but I'm not willing to break this off.
I see him in a bit less than three weeks, so it's not too much longer, but I don't know how to cope right now.
I keep myself busy-- I have a heavy school schedule, college applications, meetings to go to, orchestra and marching band rehearsals, projects, and a lot of individual writing that I do.
What else can I do to feel better about this?Long distance relationship advice?
Now that he's in college and will be there for four years, trying to keep up this relationship, will me nigh on impossible.
Even though you are keeping in touch, as you have found out, it's only working when you are with each other. That's what relationships are all about, spending real time with each other.
What you have now, is basically a pen pal, or just a friend. It lacks the closeness you need. That's one reason for the distances you are feeling.
I think, you two should decide to see other people while he's so far away. You can't go four years, and only go out together or holidays or breaks, that's being unrealistic.
Slowly but surely, you two will drift apart as you seem to be doing already. Even with your heavy schedule, it's not doing much good for you.
So next time you meet with him, have a long talk and tell him how you feel, I'm sure he's feeling the same. So although dating others is taking a risk, that you may find someone else you care for more, at least you will be living your life, and not just holed up in your room.
That's why most long distance relationships, rarely work.Long distance relationship advice?
From my point of view of being a guy
Well I would just tell you to weigh out you options and think about them carefully. Do you really like him as much as you say you do? Does he make an effort to contact you and ask you how u feel about your long distance relationship? Do you think that your relationship can last even though its long distance? Personally I put my happiness before anyone unless I really love the person. Well hope this helped.
i have never been in a long distance relationship!!!! i will tell you to just calm down if you have had sex with him it will explain that feeling. I am sorry you feel this way. just try to keep busy. try to keep yourself going and just tell him everyday how much you love him and tell him how you feel!!!!!
We've been dating for over 2 years, and at the beginning of September he left for college.
I drove down to visit him over a weekend in mid-October.
The week or so before I saw him I started to feel distant from him emotionally, but once I saw him, everything was fine and was until this week. I'm starting to feel distant again. We talk just about every night, and I don't understand why I feel this way.
Maybe because it's not the same as him being here talking to me face to face. I'm not sure.
But I don't know how to deal with this feeling.
Some days I feel like complete crap, but I'm not willing to break this off.
I see him in a bit less than three weeks, so it's not too much longer, but I don't know how to cope right now.
I keep myself busy-- I have a heavy school schedule, college applications, meetings to go to, orchestra and marching band rehearsals, projects, and a lot of individual writing that I do.
What else can I do to feel better about this?Long distance relationship advice?
Now that he's in college and will be there for four years, trying to keep up this relationship, will me nigh on impossible.
Even though you are keeping in touch, as you have found out, it's only working when you are with each other. That's what relationships are all about, spending real time with each other.
What you have now, is basically a pen pal, or just a friend. It lacks the closeness you need. That's one reason for the distances you are feeling.
I think, you two should decide to see other people while he's so far away. You can't go four years, and only go out together or holidays or breaks, that's being unrealistic.
Slowly but surely, you two will drift apart as you seem to be doing already. Even with your heavy schedule, it's not doing much good for you.
So next time you meet with him, have a long talk and tell him how you feel, I'm sure he's feeling the same. So although dating others is taking a risk, that you may find someone else you care for more, at least you will be living your life, and not just holed up in your room.
That's why most long distance relationships, rarely work.Long distance relationship advice?
From my point of view of being a guy
Well I would just tell you to weigh out you options and think about them carefully. Do you really like him as much as you say you do? Does he make an effort to contact you and ask you how u feel about your long distance relationship? Do you think that your relationship can last even though its long distance? Personally I put my happiness before anyone unless I really love the person. Well hope this helped.
i have never been in a long distance relationship!!!! i will tell you to just calm down if you have had sex with him it will explain that feeling. I am sorry you feel this way. just try to keep busy. try to keep yourself going and just tell him everyday how much you love him and tell him how you feel!!!!!
Long Distance Relationship Advice ?
Ok so I've been in a long distance relationship for over 3months and its great really :) he is like no other guy ive ever met we already have told each other we love each other and stuff.. anyways its great but im kinda iffy on the situation, in june he is coming to stay with me for a month then in August or so im going to stay with him.. I just want advice really on how to deal with stuff like not seeing each other,not always having time to talk for a long time and any advice really... we're 18 and going to college soon im kinda worried we might not make it through all that we've talked about living together in the future but idk.. advice please :) I know im young but we've already agreed we want to be together so ya never know we could end up married one day lol.Long Distance Relationship Advice ?
There is no way his relationship will survive all through your college years and until you are in careers unless you move to at least the same city. If you really love eachother its worth making some tough choices here.Long Distance Relationship Advice ?
its hard to have a long distance relationship in college.. many of them dont work..i dont have any advice..whatever happens happens for a reason..just go with the flow i guess..good luck
There is no way his relationship will survive all through your college years and until you are in careers unless you move to at least the same city. If you really love eachother its worth making some tough choices here.Long Distance Relationship Advice ?
its hard to have a long distance relationship in college.. many of them dont work..i dont have any advice..whatever happens happens for a reason..just go with the flow i guess..good luck
Long distance relationship advice? anyone out there who's done it?
i have a long distance girlfriend right now. i've had her for 4 going on 5 months, and things are going great! we both love each other very much, and would do anything for each other. but there's always the question about the future... so i'm asking you guys. is there anyone out there that's been in my situation with a long distance relationship, and made it work in the end? i know there's plenty of people out there who've done it, i'm just looking for advice. how do you deal with those times when you miss the crap out of the other person? how often did you get to see each other? how'd you make it work so that you can finally be together one day? i wish i could give you more than 10 points for an answer that answers all those questions, but it's the best i can do. thank you so so so much!!!Long distance relationship advice? anyone out there who's done it?
You sound like an extremely sweet and loving man. And I am only 16 years old but I have some things to tell you with my experience. You can do anything. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't last in a long distance relationship. I started dating my first and only boyfriend online, I met him in a chat room 4 years ago when I was 12 years old. He was 15 at the time and now he's 18. We have been together for four years now, haven't ever met yet. I talk to his parents, I talk to his brother, I talk to them all online and see them all on webcam. I'm so close to his family even though I haven't even met them in real life yet. His name is Chris, And we've had our struggles, hard times. We've almost broke up, but we just couldn't do it. And let me tell you, When I was 12 I approached my mom and told her about how I was in the long distance relationship and she laughed in my face and told me it'd never work out, And today I'm happier than ever. I live in the United States, He lives in Canada. I'm going to FINALLY go live with my boyfriend on January 20th, 2010. =] You can do anything, Don't ever let people say your relationship won't work because love has No distance. I hope what I've told you is semi-inspiring. I don't know about you but I'm strict over my boyfriend and he's strict over me. I know the feelings you may have, of how much you want to see that person and sometimes it feels like it's hard to wait but trust me everything pays off for you in the end with patience and love. So far I've made it, and I know you can too. Now that I'm 16, it's legal age down there and luckily I have a supportive, loving mom. I recently go my passport and it came in the mail so I'm all set. I've packed some things already (: I think that when someone makes a long distance relationship last, that really means something....Those are the most inspiring things to hear. Just don't give up okay? There's been times when I've thought about giving up but this is my blessing and I don't know what I'd do without it.. Always remember, You two WILL be together one day and you WILL share all your special moments with her. Need more advice I would love to tell. I would say good luck but you don't need it, you're on the track just don't give up on love because love doesn't walk away, the people do.Long distance relationship advice? anyone out there who's done it?
99.4 % of the time they fail, its not worth it
You sound like an extremely sweet and loving man. And I am only 16 years old but I have some things to tell you with my experience. You can do anything. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't last in a long distance relationship. I started dating my first and only boyfriend online, I met him in a chat room 4 years ago when I was 12 years old. He was 15 at the time and now he's 18. We have been together for four years now, haven't ever met yet. I talk to his parents, I talk to his brother, I talk to them all online and see them all on webcam. I'm so close to his family even though I haven't even met them in real life yet. His name is Chris, And we've had our struggles, hard times. We've almost broke up, but we just couldn't do it. And let me tell you, When I was 12 I approached my mom and told her about how I was in the long distance relationship and she laughed in my face and told me it'd never work out, And today I'm happier than ever. I live in the United States, He lives in Canada. I'm going to FINALLY go live with my boyfriend on January 20th, 2010. =] You can do anything, Don't ever let people say your relationship won't work because love has No distance. I hope what I've told you is semi-inspiring. I don't know about you but I'm strict over my boyfriend and he's strict over me. I know the feelings you may have, of how much you want to see that person and sometimes it feels like it's hard to wait but trust me everything pays off for you in the end with patience and love. So far I've made it, and I know you can too. Now that I'm 16, it's legal age down there and luckily I have a supportive, loving mom. I recently go my passport and it came in the mail so I'm all set. I've packed some things already (: I think that when someone makes a long distance relationship last, that really means something....Those are the most inspiring things to hear. Just don't give up okay? There's been times when I've thought about giving up but this is my blessing and I don't know what I'd do without it.. Always remember, You two WILL be together one day and you WILL share all your special moments with her. Need more advice I would love to tell. I would say good luck but you don't need it, you're on the track just don't give up on love because love doesn't walk away, the people do.Long distance relationship advice? anyone out there who's done it?
99.4 % of the time they fail, its not worth it
Long-distance relationship...?
me n him (w/e we are at the moment) were in a long-distance relationship for about 2 months. last night he broke up with me because he says he doesnt feel the same towards me as he did before. ive been going thru a transition lately and he was there for me, we were really close friends before we started going out. he wants us to take a break, still be friends and go on with our previous plans of him coming over this summer. he wants to spend more time with me in person to see if we still have that initial chemistry. im really hurt and angry, even though i kinda understand where hes coming from. still i dont think i could deal with being just friends with him, knowing how we feel about each other(he assures me he still loves me but didnt want to keep pretending like nothing was wrong when he was feeling this way) i dont know what to do, i still love him so much :'(Long-distance relationship...?
Move on. Anyone who dumps you and says they don't feel the same towards you isn't worth keeping as a friend. He doesn't love you-- people who love don't dump the person they claim to love.Long-distance relationship...?
As the saying goes, ';If you truly love someone, let them go. If he/she returns, then you were meant to be. If he/she doesn't return, let them go - for they were never yours to begin with.'; In order to be a good couple, you must be good individuals. And if you know yourself well enough, then you'll discover that A) He's the one for you and you should just wait for him to discover that on his own, or B) You deserve better because someone that claims he loves you shouldn't have left in the first place. Good luck!
Don't do it! It is painful but if you love someone set them free if it is meant to be they will return back to me. Best of Luck.
as much as this is hurting you right now, you need to go with it and begin the healing process. the majority of long-distance relationships fail because it's just too much pressure on those involved. also, if you become more accepting %26amp; understanding, you will have a stronger likelihood of getting back together with him at some point in the future if there is any possibility of resurrecting the relationship. if you continue to resist, he may begin to resent you for not respecting him and his wishes.
if it's truly meant to be, there isn't anything in the world that can keep the two of you apart. if it isn't meant to be, why would you want to waste your time with someone that isn't meant for you?
GOOD LUCK!!!
Hmmmm...if he broke up with you last night explaining that he doesn't feel for you what he was feeling before....I really see no reason why he should come over this Summer and spend some time with you...He just dumped you because he's obviously not into you! So, why are you still there for him? Friends? Who wants to be his friend anyway!!!...Just tell him that since he left you, it's obviously over, so you'd rather call it all off (friendship included) and leave him behind for good.
If he loves you, he'll come back.
My best friend had a 9 month long distance relationship with her boyfriend he came back and everything was fine they just continued where they left off. My best friends when they were apart they gained a lot of independence. So when he came back it was different for both of them. For example they didnt rely on each other as much but they still loved one another. If he wants a break give it to him let him go... i know it hurts.. if he really loves u he'll come back i promise. My best friends love each other deeply and they never had this kind of problem. So this just may be the end... but dont worry there are plenty of fish in the sea... if he comes back and just wants to be friends stay friends. Dont let him walk all over u, have pride and dont get back together with him if he is not sure. u know people only understand how much they love someone or something when they lose it. Show him he lost u,and he may be crawling back :)
im sorry to tell you but long distant relationships never work out and if u can get them to kudos to u but from experiance i would move on cuz how do u know he aint with someone else
JUst make sure he's not too afraid to tell you it's over and isn't telling you the truth. Guys can't seem to be able to just say its over, they have to do the whole, we're better off friends thing. When they really mean, I'm done. However if he really means what he said, that you need to get to know each other in person, then that is great, and wise on his part. A lot of fantasy can be built around a long distance relationship and its good to see if you are compatible in person too. What you need to ask him is to be up front with you. Tell him that you'd rather him just break up with you entirely if that is what he means to do, it'll hurt less then spending so much time with him and THEN him ending it. Make sure he's not being either a coward or trying to keep you as an option, on the back burner, without committing himself. That's just selfish. Either you are dating or you are not, there is no in between. If he still wants to spend time with you over the summer it is still dating. If he doesn't want to date, then don't spend that time with him, hard as that may be for you. It'll hurt less later.
Well, my husband is going over seas. He is in the air force and we are about to be apart for 7 months and 3 days. The things we are doing and are planning to do are stuff like... try and talk as much as possible, but when the other person wants some time, give it to them, or they will feel burdened to just talk to you and not live their life. If you really feel like talking to them, write them a letter, no matter when it is, just write to them, whether you send it to them or not, it will make you feel better. One more thing...if it is meant to be...you guys will be together.
if you love him let him go if he comes back to you its truley meant to behair cut styles myspace pics
Move on. Anyone who dumps you and says they don't feel the same towards you isn't worth keeping as a friend. He doesn't love you-- people who love don't dump the person they claim to love.Long-distance relationship...?
As the saying goes, ';If you truly love someone, let them go. If he/she returns, then you were meant to be. If he/she doesn't return, let them go - for they were never yours to begin with.'; In order to be a good couple, you must be good individuals. And if you know yourself well enough, then you'll discover that A) He's the one for you and you should just wait for him to discover that on his own, or B) You deserve better because someone that claims he loves you shouldn't have left in the first place. Good luck!
Don't do it! It is painful but if you love someone set them free if it is meant to be they will return back to me. Best of Luck.
as much as this is hurting you right now, you need to go with it and begin the healing process. the majority of long-distance relationships fail because it's just too much pressure on those involved. also, if you become more accepting %26amp; understanding, you will have a stronger likelihood of getting back together with him at some point in the future if there is any possibility of resurrecting the relationship. if you continue to resist, he may begin to resent you for not respecting him and his wishes.
if it's truly meant to be, there isn't anything in the world that can keep the two of you apart. if it isn't meant to be, why would you want to waste your time with someone that isn't meant for you?
GOOD LUCK!!!
Hmmmm...if he broke up with you last night explaining that he doesn't feel for you what he was feeling before....I really see no reason why he should come over this Summer and spend some time with you...He just dumped you because he's obviously not into you! So, why are you still there for him? Friends? Who wants to be his friend anyway!!!...Just tell him that since he left you, it's obviously over, so you'd rather call it all off (friendship included) and leave him behind for good.
If he loves you, he'll come back.
My best friend had a 9 month long distance relationship with her boyfriend he came back and everything was fine they just continued where they left off. My best friends when they were apart they gained a lot of independence. So when he came back it was different for both of them. For example they didnt rely on each other as much but they still loved one another. If he wants a break give it to him let him go... i know it hurts.. if he really loves u he'll come back i promise. My best friends love each other deeply and they never had this kind of problem. So this just may be the end... but dont worry there are plenty of fish in the sea... if he comes back and just wants to be friends stay friends. Dont let him walk all over u, have pride and dont get back together with him if he is not sure. u know people only understand how much they love someone or something when they lose it. Show him he lost u,and he may be crawling back :)
im sorry to tell you but long distant relationships never work out and if u can get them to kudos to u but from experiance i would move on cuz how do u know he aint with someone else
JUst make sure he's not too afraid to tell you it's over and isn't telling you the truth. Guys can't seem to be able to just say its over, they have to do the whole, we're better off friends thing. When they really mean, I'm done. However if he really means what he said, that you need to get to know each other in person, then that is great, and wise on his part. A lot of fantasy can be built around a long distance relationship and its good to see if you are compatible in person too. What you need to ask him is to be up front with you. Tell him that you'd rather him just break up with you entirely if that is what he means to do, it'll hurt less then spending so much time with him and THEN him ending it. Make sure he's not being either a coward or trying to keep you as an option, on the back burner, without committing himself. That's just selfish. Either you are dating or you are not, there is no in between. If he still wants to spend time with you over the summer it is still dating. If he doesn't want to date, then don't spend that time with him, hard as that may be for you. It'll hurt less later.
Well, my husband is going over seas. He is in the air force and we are about to be apart for 7 months and 3 days. The things we are doing and are planning to do are stuff like... try and talk as much as possible, but when the other person wants some time, give it to them, or they will feel burdened to just talk to you and not live their life. If you really feel like talking to them, write them a letter, no matter when it is, just write to them, whether you send it to them or not, it will make you feel better. One more thing...if it is meant to be...you guys will be together.
if you love him let him go if he comes back to you its truley meant to be
Long distance relationship?
Right now I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend of 2 years and I decided that when he went to college this year, we'd stay together. He's going to be in school for Pharmacy, so after this year he has 5 more years to go. I'm going to a college three hours from his next year after I graduate, which is a little farther apart than we are now.
I know this is a hard relationship to make work because it's so long term, but we're willing to work through it. Things are fine, but I'm having a lot of trouble coping with his being gone. We talk every night and we're not having problems, but I find myself feeling really sad. He has new friends and everything to keep him occupied, but I'm left in a small neighborhood where we grew up waiting...dealing with the same old, but without him here.
Anyone who's been through this kind of experience?
Any advice on how to deal with this?
I go out with my friends and keep busy and everything, but I just don't feel as happy when he's gone.
I get really emotional a lot and pretty sensitive.
All advice I've gotten so far is to break up with him, but I can't do that. I want this to work, and it is, I just need to know how to cope emotionally.Long distance relationship?
the Loving from a Distance community would be a helpful resource for you.Long distance relationship?
Schedule regular phone calls. Send each other handwritten cards and letters and little packages a lot. Visit whenever possible. Good luck!
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I've been in a long distance relationship and it's so hard. Phone calls and texts are essential, because communication is all you've got. If possible, take turns making roadtrips to see each other on weekends. Write letters. Send pictures over the internet. Write on his Facebook wall. Send him care packages.
I wouldn't say break up with him, but you've got to get thicker skin. Know that he won't be there when you're sad or when you fight and want to physically meet and talk things out.
Try to take on a hobby, like working out, or look into joining an extracurricular activity. I joined a sorority. Even though the relationship didn't work out, I still have good friends.
Most importantly, a relationship like this takes effort. If neither of you are willing to call or visit, that's when you should consider ending it. However, you've stated that things are going good, so I see no reason to end a good thing =] Good luck honey. xoxo
I know this is a hard relationship to make work because it's so long term, but we're willing to work through it. Things are fine, but I'm having a lot of trouble coping with his being gone. We talk every night and we're not having problems, but I find myself feeling really sad. He has new friends and everything to keep him occupied, but I'm left in a small neighborhood where we grew up waiting...dealing with the same old, but without him here.
Anyone who's been through this kind of experience?
Any advice on how to deal with this?
I go out with my friends and keep busy and everything, but I just don't feel as happy when he's gone.
I get really emotional a lot and pretty sensitive.
All advice I've gotten so far is to break up with him, but I can't do that. I want this to work, and it is, I just need to know how to cope emotionally.Long distance relationship?
the Loving from a Distance community would be a helpful resource for you.Long distance relationship?
Schedule regular phone calls. Send each other handwritten cards and letters and little packages a lot. Visit whenever possible. Good luck!
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I've been in a long distance relationship and it's so hard. Phone calls and texts are essential, because communication is all you've got. If possible, take turns making roadtrips to see each other on weekends. Write letters. Send pictures over the internet. Write on his Facebook wall. Send him care packages.
I wouldn't say break up with him, but you've got to get thicker skin. Know that he won't be there when you're sad or when you fight and want to physically meet and talk things out.
Try to take on a hobby, like working out, or look into joining an extracurricular activity. I joined a sorority. Even though the relationship didn't work out, I still have good friends.
Most importantly, a relationship like this takes effort. If neither of you are willing to call or visit, that's when you should consider ending it. However, you've stated that things are going good, so I see no reason to end a good thing =] Good luck honey. xoxo
Long distance relationship worries - he feels like the one, but has a young son!?
My boyfriend Adam and I have been together for about 6 months now. We've known each other for almost a year. When we met I was with someone else (Richard) in a rather settled, boring and strain-filled 2 year relationship. I met Adam at a local open mic and loved his music (I am also a musician). Nothing happened between us, we flirted but I was taken and not looking at the time.
A few months later I ended up moving with Richard to a bigger city, in hopes of furthering my music career. I knew our relationship was on the rocks but also knew I needed to move to get away from my home town, as the music scene there was dying. Well, we fought a lot (as we were very different people) and then I ended up really getting to know Adam after we worked together on my album cover (he's a photographer). After getting settled here, I realized that I had fallen OUT of love with Richard completely, and had begun to fall IN love with Adam!
I could never cheat, and knew the time had come to leave Richard... he took it hard but it felt very right. He moved out and almost simultaneously I ended up in a long distance relationship with Adam. I couldn't believe how much we had in common, we visited each other a few times and it felt so magical! We talk/ed every night on Skype for up to 4 or 5 hours. It has moved very fast and we both have been able to open up with each other more than we ever felt possible. I am in love! Recently thought, I've began to have some fears that I find hard to bring up... he is SO in love with me and now I feel a weight on my shoulders; long distance is stressful and the pressure is mounting. What adds the extra pressure? Adam also has a 7 year old son back in my home town who lives with him 1/2 the time. I get along well with his son too, we've hung out a lot and never had a conflict - he's always happy to see me. He's still friends with his ex (who I also get along with) and works full time at a low wage job that he likes (but barely pays the bills). He's 31, I'm 25.
All in all, it's a pretty good deal. Adam is loving, open minded, shares all of my values and goals in life. I feel he enriches my life and I could see us getting married. We have talked about moving in together and it feels like a great idea... but I still don't want to move back to my home town as it would feel like a death sentence to my music career. He can't just up and move here (though he wants to) because his son's mom lives there and doesn't want to move! It's a 5 hour trip.
We are in a pickle. I feel like I need to date him normally (in the same city) to know 100% that he's the one for me. This situation makes me feel pressured and stressed out because all this back and forth is making it hard for me to have balance in my life. I feel like I lead a double life - one here as a career-driven entrepreneur striving to achieve my dreams as a recording artist (which is hard, but satisfying); and the other as a woman in love, who wants to start building a life with her mate and feel settled.
All this switching is making me dizzy and I am beginning to have doubts... how can we ever resolve this without taking a huge risk? We're both broke musician's and of course his son comes first. What if we move to the same city and things don't work out? What if we stay long distance and eventually I need to leave him because of the stress? (my mind is a constant chatter about it these days). His son is already becoming attached and it's a BIG adjustment living with a kid (I visit them about every 2 weeks for 3 days). I'm not sure I'm ready - I don't want to end this but it takes so much energy to keep up! He is totally committed to me and I know he would do whatever he can to keep us together... I just don't know what to suggest. Or how to bring up the full extent of my fears when he seems so sure. If he didn't have a son... he would just move here and I wouldn't be so worried about messing up. I feel stuck! Help help! This is driving me crazy!Long distance relationship worries - he feels like the one, but has a young son!?
Why do you ahve to decide now?
It sounds to me like you are not going to get the perfect solution to this problem now but with time, things may work out or the answer will make itself apparent to you.
I met a girl on a flight to Prague. we got on well and wanted to meet up again so we exchanged numbers. Unfortunately we lived a distance apart which was obviously an issue. We decided, however, to give it a go and spent 3 years seeing each other at weekends (if we could) and talking on the phone. We have now lived together for a year and will be getting married in early 2011.
Fortunately neither of us had any baggage to contend with unlike yourself but i don't believe that that has to get in the way in your case.
We knew after 6 months that we were not ready to give up our own lives just yet for each other as we didn't know each other well enough to make that commitment. We knew we had to be patient.
I think that you need to be patient too otherwise you are headed for disaster. You don't sound ready to give up your career just yet and if you do, unless you find anything really fulfilling to do, it could be the thing that ends up breaking you. You sound like you need fulfilment and satisfaction from your work and if you don't get that then you could end up resenting Adam because you will have given everything up for him and got nothing back. In which case you are taking a huge step backwards in terms of your career.
If you can not wait, however hard it is, then i suggest you end it. You know what you want to do with life but there are more than 5Billion people on this planet that you have not met yet. He may not actually be the one!!!!!
So
You can't have your career and commit to him now.
You can have a go at your career for a couple of years and see how things go between you and Adam over that time. You will certainly know him better by then. You can take some holidays together etc.
Or you can end it, concentrate on your career and see if someone else comes along.
Personally, i would try and be patient but failing that, you have to be true to your own dreams before anyone elses!!!
Hope it all works out well for you.Long distance relationship worries - he feels like the one, but has a young son!?
You love him yes but it seems you don't love him with his baggage. I'm in the same situation as you but i'm the one with a son. And what ex does is stay with them and i provide and help out where i can. If you don't want the mother role let his ex do it than he can visit his son whenever he wants to. But its best to ask him what decision he wants to take. Does he want to move in alone or with you. But then again love and relationships is taking the full package and accepting the person's lifestyle and how it can fit in with yours without loosing yourself.
A few months later I ended up moving with Richard to a bigger city, in hopes of furthering my music career. I knew our relationship was on the rocks but also knew I needed to move to get away from my home town, as the music scene there was dying. Well, we fought a lot (as we were very different people) and then I ended up really getting to know Adam after we worked together on my album cover (he's a photographer). After getting settled here, I realized that I had fallen OUT of love with Richard completely, and had begun to fall IN love with Adam!
I could never cheat, and knew the time had come to leave Richard... he took it hard but it felt very right. He moved out and almost simultaneously I ended up in a long distance relationship with Adam. I couldn't believe how much we had in common, we visited each other a few times and it felt so magical! We talk/ed every night on Skype for up to 4 or 5 hours. It has moved very fast and we both have been able to open up with each other more than we ever felt possible. I am in love! Recently thought, I've began to have some fears that I find hard to bring up... he is SO in love with me and now I feel a weight on my shoulders; long distance is stressful and the pressure is mounting. What adds the extra pressure? Adam also has a 7 year old son back in my home town who lives with him 1/2 the time. I get along well with his son too, we've hung out a lot and never had a conflict - he's always happy to see me. He's still friends with his ex (who I also get along with) and works full time at a low wage job that he likes (but barely pays the bills). He's 31, I'm 25.
All in all, it's a pretty good deal. Adam is loving, open minded, shares all of my values and goals in life. I feel he enriches my life and I could see us getting married. We have talked about moving in together and it feels like a great idea... but I still don't want to move back to my home town as it would feel like a death sentence to my music career. He can't just up and move here (though he wants to) because his son's mom lives there and doesn't want to move! It's a 5 hour trip.
We are in a pickle. I feel like I need to date him normally (in the same city) to know 100% that he's the one for me. This situation makes me feel pressured and stressed out because all this back and forth is making it hard for me to have balance in my life. I feel like I lead a double life - one here as a career-driven entrepreneur striving to achieve my dreams as a recording artist (which is hard, but satisfying); and the other as a woman in love, who wants to start building a life with her mate and feel settled.
All this switching is making me dizzy and I am beginning to have doubts... how can we ever resolve this without taking a huge risk? We're both broke musician's and of course his son comes first. What if we move to the same city and things don't work out? What if we stay long distance and eventually I need to leave him because of the stress? (my mind is a constant chatter about it these days). His son is already becoming attached and it's a BIG adjustment living with a kid (I visit them about every 2 weeks for 3 days). I'm not sure I'm ready - I don't want to end this but it takes so much energy to keep up! He is totally committed to me and I know he would do whatever he can to keep us together... I just don't know what to suggest. Or how to bring up the full extent of my fears when he seems so sure. If he didn't have a son... he would just move here and I wouldn't be so worried about messing up. I feel stuck! Help help! This is driving me crazy!Long distance relationship worries - he feels like the one, but has a young son!?
Why do you ahve to decide now?
It sounds to me like you are not going to get the perfect solution to this problem now but with time, things may work out or the answer will make itself apparent to you.
I met a girl on a flight to Prague. we got on well and wanted to meet up again so we exchanged numbers. Unfortunately we lived a distance apart which was obviously an issue. We decided, however, to give it a go and spent 3 years seeing each other at weekends (if we could) and talking on the phone. We have now lived together for a year and will be getting married in early 2011.
Fortunately neither of us had any baggage to contend with unlike yourself but i don't believe that that has to get in the way in your case.
We knew after 6 months that we were not ready to give up our own lives just yet for each other as we didn't know each other well enough to make that commitment. We knew we had to be patient.
I think that you need to be patient too otherwise you are headed for disaster. You don't sound ready to give up your career just yet and if you do, unless you find anything really fulfilling to do, it could be the thing that ends up breaking you. You sound like you need fulfilment and satisfaction from your work and if you don't get that then you could end up resenting Adam because you will have given everything up for him and got nothing back. In which case you are taking a huge step backwards in terms of your career.
If you can not wait, however hard it is, then i suggest you end it. You know what you want to do with life but there are more than 5Billion people on this planet that you have not met yet. He may not actually be the one!!!!!
So
You can't have your career and commit to him now.
You can have a go at your career for a couple of years and see how things go between you and Adam over that time. You will certainly know him better by then. You can take some holidays together etc.
Or you can end it, concentrate on your career and see if someone else comes along.
Personally, i would try and be patient but failing that, you have to be true to your own dreams before anyone elses!!!
Hope it all works out well for you.Long distance relationship worries - he feels like the one, but has a young son!?
You love him yes but it seems you don't love him with his baggage. I'm in the same situation as you but i'm the one with a son. And what ex does is stay with them and i provide and help out where i can. If you don't want the mother role let his ex do it than he can visit his son whenever he wants to. But its best to ask him what decision he wants to take. Does he want to move in alone or with you. But then again love and relationships is taking the full package and accepting the person's lifestyle and how it can fit in with yours without loosing yourself.
Just broke up with boyfriend over a long distance relationship?
My long distance relationship started a year ago, ended last week. My boyfriend announced that he couldn't do this any more, he's fed up with not seeing each other over a month some times two month. He said that unless I found a job near where he is and relocate, unless we had a chance of living together it's over. I'm heartbroken, I don't know what to do? How to deal with this breakup? We loved each other, there wasn't any cheating involved in the failure of the relationship, I still love him, so I feel very difficult to accept the ending of the relationship. Please could you advice me on how to deal with this? Thank you very much! I appreciate any advice.Just broke up with boyfriend over a long distance relationship?
a long distance relationship never works out.. why? because you never get to see each other; spend time together... all of those stuff.
you'd never know if he's cheating on you... he might say ';no'; but do u know that in reality.
... just move on.
-why do you have to move? how come he doesn't move near you? i think he's PRESSURING YOU.
plus what if you move over to his place and it doesn't work out. think about it
a long distance relationship never works out.. why? because you never get to see each other; spend time together... all of those stuff.
you'd never know if he's cheating on you... he might say ';no'; but do u know that in reality.
... just move on.
-why do you have to move? how come he doesn't move near you? i think he's PRESSURING YOU.
plus what if you move over to his place and it doesn't work out. think about it
How can I survive a long distance relationship?
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years. We've talked about marriage but wanted to wait till I graduated, then I moved for training and will be back in March. I know we love eachother but he just seems distance, like emotionally. Guys, is this his way of dealing with me being gone?How can I survive a long distance relationship?
You just never really know. even though 6 years' longtime, you and him should talk about this as often as possible and be in some kinda contact with each other to minimize the distance and to be reassured of you love to one another. i made a mistake of not calling often and telling my x fiance that she meant a lot to me and that i was still in love with her. she went and got married with someone else after about 3 years of long distance and i know it was my fault. guys usually dont say much but if its gonna be up to you to tell him how and when to call, please do so. good luck!How can I survive a long distance relationship?
Visit, visit, visit! Don't let him forget about you! Call, call, call! Remind him that you love him!
Everyone copes with things differently. Guys won't say they miss you and cry about it. Maybe he is feeling the separation strongly and so he tries to distance himself hoping it won't hurt so bad. Keep up phone calls, emails, handwritten letters, care packages, anything and everything you can think of to bring you closer together while you're apart.
go visit him from time to time
he should do the same
You just never really know. even though 6 years' longtime, you and him should talk about this as often as possible and be in some kinda contact with each other to minimize the distance and to be reassured of you love to one another. i made a mistake of not calling often and telling my x fiance that she meant a lot to me and that i was still in love with her. she went and got married with someone else after about 3 years of long distance and i know it was my fault. guys usually dont say much but if its gonna be up to you to tell him how and when to call, please do so. good luck!How can I survive a long distance relationship?
Visit, visit, visit! Don't let him forget about you! Call, call, call! Remind him that you love him!
Everyone copes with things differently. Guys won't say they miss you and cry about it. Maybe he is feeling the separation strongly and so he tries to distance himself hoping it won't hurt so bad. Keep up phone calls, emails, handwritten letters, care packages, anything and everything you can think of to bring you closer together while you're apart.
go visit him from time to time
he should do the same
Long Distance Relationship with Fiancee but she ends everything to be independent & do things her own.?
Hello, Im confused and hurt. do you think i should just move on and cut off all ties with this female. I didnt do anything to this woman but be there for her like a man should be, i helped got her own place to stay, giving her money to have to live, calling and texting her everyday to talk. im in california and shes in st maarten. but i was making a transition to go down and stay with her in the place i got for us to stay in. and bring her back with me to live. but anyway, all of sudden..without talking to me %26amp; letting me know how she was feeling. she wants to end everything, the engagement, our relationship, and just wants to be friends. now in my heart i believe she done something wrong and dont want to tell me the whole truth about something. cause in an email she wrote, all she says she feels hurt of what she had done to me, and how she hurt my feelings. and when i ask what did you do and why so fast you come with an solution like this to end everything, she says respect her decisions, and when ask to come down and see her. she says its not a good idea for both of us to see each other and she doesnt want to see me. so after all the time and effort i put into this relationship, taking care of this woman, being there for this woman. should i just go on and find better. cause all this came about when she started talking to one of her friends that had problems with his relationhip, they started talking everynight, spending hours in his car talking, even fell asleep in his car one night, she tells me one of the reason why she wants to end it all cause all of the calling and she could'nt deal with, in the beginning she was confindent and serious about being in a long distance relationship %26amp; now she doesnt want to be, she thought she could and want tell me the other reasons why she dont want me. i'm really hurt here. i was doing everything i could to make this relationship work and she stabbed me in the back. What should I do? I know there is better out there for me and someone that will love me for me. Was I being used all this time? Help Me!!Long Distance Relationship with Fiancee but she ends everything to be independent %26amp; do things her own.?
You bought her a house? a ring? and you gave her money.
You were being used. she obviously liked you but not enough to kep her occupied and tied to your relationship.
She met her friend and fell for him. and is over you...completly
i'm sorry
But you need to move on.Long Distance Relationship with Fiancee but she ends everything to be independent %26amp; do things her own.?
help YOURSELF. end the relationship. just walk away. no more talking. its over.
you know good and well you dont want someone like this in your life and you certainly dont deserve it. you got abused, tricked, used. it happens to girls all the time and yes it hurts a lot!
do you want a girl who hurts you? no.
do you want a girl who abuses you and your trust? no.
do you want a girl who stays up all night with a guy in his car? no.
do you want a girl who treasures you? yes.
do you want a girl who adores you? yes.
do you want a girl who gives you the respect you deserve? yes.
do you want a girl who is your best friend and cant wait to show you off? yes.
you have a big heart. protect it!! put the emotions aside and think... clear your mind. do you want this? is she worth even one more phone call? girls like this need to be put in their place. show her you are strong without her, show her you can stand up for yourself. THAT is what is attractive to a woman.
i promise you, one day your dream girl will come along. she cant find you if youre with miss user-pants.
God loves you and has someone for you... give it a chance.
Hang in there. Be strong. And pick your head up, youre a great guy.
it an be like she may have fallen in love with some other guy out there n i understand your feelings n what u r going through i m just telling you to face it... or the other reason may be that she would need some space from you dont call her for a few days n wait if she returns and if not try to leave your past behind and i m sure that you will definately find true love n try and understand her also at times long distance relationships do become a problem
You bought her a house? a ring? and you gave her money.
You were being used. she obviously liked you but not enough to kep her occupied and tied to your relationship.
She met her friend and fell for him. and is over you...completly
i'm sorry
But you need to move on.Long Distance Relationship with Fiancee but she ends everything to be independent %26amp; do things her own.?
help YOURSELF. end the relationship. just walk away. no more talking. its over.
you know good and well you dont want someone like this in your life and you certainly dont deserve it. you got abused, tricked, used. it happens to girls all the time and yes it hurts a lot!
do you want a girl who hurts you? no.
do you want a girl who abuses you and your trust? no.
do you want a girl who stays up all night with a guy in his car? no.
do you want a girl who treasures you? yes.
do you want a girl who adores you? yes.
do you want a girl who gives you the respect you deserve? yes.
do you want a girl who is your best friend and cant wait to show you off? yes.
you have a big heart. protect it!! put the emotions aside and think... clear your mind. do you want this? is she worth even one more phone call? girls like this need to be put in their place. show her you are strong without her, show her you can stand up for yourself. THAT is what is attractive to a woman.
i promise you, one day your dream girl will come along. she cant find you if youre with miss user-pants.
God loves you and has someone for you... give it a chance.
Hang in there. Be strong. And pick your head up, youre a great guy.
it an be like she may have fallen in love with some other guy out there n i understand your feelings n what u r going through i m just telling you to face it... or the other reason may be that she would need some space from you dont call her for a few days n wait if she returns and if not try to leave your past behind and i m sure that you will definately find true love n try and understand her also at times long distance relationships do become a problem
What should i do... long distance relationship?
So its probably obvious from my previous questions that I fell for a turkish guy. We spent almost every min together when I was there - it was completely unexpected. I know he fell for me too, even if it was just for a second, i know he felt the same.
Well he's going to the army for 15 months, and i won't see him, probably won't even hear from him.
I come from a strict family where relationships with people from other cultures is completely off limits - not that I care, it was the first time in years I actually felt happiness again. And for me, happiness is a big thing as most of the time i am unhappy.
Ppl keep saying guys from there are after a ticket to freedom, I just don't believe thats the case with him.
I miss him so much, but i know eventually i am going to have to let go.
I would love to hear from people who have had to let go from their long distance loves, what happened, how did u deal with it?
If i have the opportunity to go there again with friends, should i take it? Considering he's going to go away for a while.. but to see him again would make my day. Just hate lying to my parents.What should i do... long distance relationship?
If he's the right one 4 u, a break in the relationship wont matter, u'll get back together. I dk why u cant call him, but when u can, make sure to do that soon as u feel ready. If he just isnt the one, settle 4 a possible friendship or drop him. Life goes on, don't worry 'bout it.
Good luck!What should i do... long distance relationship?
Long distance relationships do not work, period. Your family is 100% correct, you need to marry within your own culture and religion.
Turkish men, and men from middle eastern countires in general, are very posessive. You may like him now but once the relationship progresses, he will start controlling your life, your friends, and your personal happiness.
Go out with your friends, enjoy life, you're only young once. Good luck
It sounds like it was probably just a fling. I think you are better off looking for happiness with a guy that is closer in proximity to you. And you can't know him very well, so I'd say let him go. It doesn't sound like you will be able to communicate anyway.
This is why long relationships just don't work out... It's so hard to not be able to see him/her. If you think he is truly something special, go after him. You only live once. Just don't be surprised if you or he gets hurt in the process
if you can trust that he wont become gay in the time in the army, than stay with him. but idk, most men turn gay and i dont think there will be alot of talking after hes deprted. more like letters that hes dead.
You start being honest with your parents and this issue will resolve itself.
Babe, it miqht sound so romantic to fall for a quy and have it end up in a lonq distance relationship. Sure, if there's an opportunity to see him aqain, take it. But if you want to let it qo, dealinq wth it is hard. Just qet busy with some of your friends, qo out on the town, do yoqa, keep yourself busy. Erase all evedince of him: notes, pictures, poems, qifts, whatever. Give them one last look and toss 'em. You don't want to be reminded of him every time you see that or somethinq like it do you? That's my advice. It's a little harder than it sounds, but it's somethinq you just have to do. Good luck!
yeah i had a relationship, with a guy from another country
i loved him alot..but he turned out to be bad news
our relationship was sweet and first..but turned into a naughty mess
but eventually my parents find out
and we were seperated
i kept up contact with him, and cried alot
but i was very deceitful
and believe me it was so much horrible..lying
i lied to my parents i dont know how many times
but one day, i ended it for good
it wasnt good at first
but now i see..my life seems much happier..and better :)
and family IS the most important thing
you should listen to them
or atleast discuss it with them..to why you think loving him is the best choice..maybe you both are destined one day?
but give it time..make sure hes the right guy
dont rush decisions
you will end up the most happiest if you follow God :)hair cut styles myspace pics
Well he's going to the army for 15 months, and i won't see him, probably won't even hear from him.
I come from a strict family where relationships with people from other cultures is completely off limits - not that I care, it was the first time in years I actually felt happiness again. And for me, happiness is a big thing as most of the time i am unhappy.
Ppl keep saying guys from there are after a ticket to freedom, I just don't believe thats the case with him.
I miss him so much, but i know eventually i am going to have to let go.
I would love to hear from people who have had to let go from their long distance loves, what happened, how did u deal with it?
If i have the opportunity to go there again with friends, should i take it? Considering he's going to go away for a while.. but to see him again would make my day. Just hate lying to my parents.What should i do... long distance relationship?
If he's the right one 4 u, a break in the relationship wont matter, u'll get back together. I dk why u cant call him, but when u can, make sure to do that soon as u feel ready. If he just isnt the one, settle 4 a possible friendship or drop him. Life goes on, don't worry 'bout it.
Good luck!What should i do... long distance relationship?
Long distance relationships do not work, period. Your family is 100% correct, you need to marry within your own culture and religion.
Turkish men, and men from middle eastern countires in general, are very posessive. You may like him now but once the relationship progresses, he will start controlling your life, your friends, and your personal happiness.
Go out with your friends, enjoy life, you're only young once. Good luck
It sounds like it was probably just a fling. I think you are better off looking for happiness with a guy that is closer in proximity to you. And you can't know him very well, so I'd say let him go. It doesn't sound like you will be able to communicate anyway.
This is why long relationships just don't work out... It's so hard to not be able to see him/her. If you think he is truly something special, go after him. You only live once. Just don't be surprised if you or he gets hurt in the process
if you can trust that he wont become gay in the time in the army, than stay with him. but idk, most men turn gay and i dont think there will be alot of talking after hes deprted. more like letters that hes dead.
You start being honest with your parents and this issue will resolve itself.
Babe, it miqht sound so romantic to fall for a quy and have it end up in a lonq distance relationship. Sure, if there's an opportunity to see him aqain, take it. But if you want to let it qo, dealinq wth it is hard. Just qet busy with some of your friends, qo out on the town, do yoqa, keep yourself busy. Erase all evedince of him: notes, pictures, poems, qifts, whatever. Give them one last look and toss 'em. You don't want to be reminded of him every time you see that or somethinq like it do you? That's my advice. It's a little harder than it sounds, but it's somethinq you just have to do. Good luck!
yeah i had a relationship, with a guy from another country
i loved him alot..but he turned out to be bad news
our relationship was sweet and first..but turned into a naughty mess
but eventually my parents find out
and we were seperated
i kept up contact with him, and cried alot
but i was very deceitful
and believe me it was so much horrible..lying
i lied to my parents i dont know how many times
but one day, i ended it for good
it wasnt good at first
but now i see..my life seems much happier..and better :)
and family IS the most important thing
you should listen to them
or atleast discuss it with them..to why you think loving him is the best choice..maybe you both are destined one day?
but give it time..make sure hes the right guy
dont rush decisions
you will end up the most happiest if you follow God :)
Long distance Relationship?
I recentlt started in a LDR and am finding it a little complicated with the wholel situation. I'm finding myself to be more nervous about that fact that i dont really know if he's dating another person or not. I'm not naturally a trusting person, a fault that i'm working on, even w/ making friends, so i'm trying it out and trying to see if i can grow as a person w/ him. He's a really great guy i've known but it just so happens he's had to move back to his home town. Can anyone give me some helpful ideas on how to deal with the distance?Long distance Relationship?
LDR is solely based on communication, trust, and commitment. For any relationship u must have that...even if he lived across the street from u..u still wouldnt know if hes dating someone behind ur back. Thats y u have to trust him jus like he has to trust u too. Yall should talk bout how to communicate more and maybe once a month or so yall should try to spend a weekend wit each other..cuz most ldr dont work is cuz they dont see much of each other or lack communication and/or trust which causes it to end
LDR is solely based on communication, trust, and commitment. For any relationship u must have that...even if he lived across the street from u..u still wouldnt know if hes dating someone behind ur back. Thats y u have to trust him jus like he has to trust u too. Yall should talk bout how to communicate more and maybe once a month or so yall should try to spend a weekend wit each other..cuz most ldr dont work is cuz they dont see much of each other or lack communication and/or trust which causes it to end
Long distance relationships?
I feel hurt, pain and frustration. I realized that I still love my husband and cares deeply for him but everything is too painful. I want to talk about issues but we always end up fighting. I have too much bottled up emotions inside. I'm so sad all the time. We live away from each other and this bothers me a lot and coping with it is very hard. How do you address these issues without fighting? Would you rather just separate than deal with a long distance relationship? Its just too painful already and I feel like I cannot deal with the pain any longer.Long distance relationships?
forget himLong distance relationships?
write him a letter,tell him how you feel,suggest married guidance
depends what you mean by long distance?
I was waiting for the love of my life to get his visa to come to the usa it never happened and I wasted 5 years of my life good years waiting and waiting.
I thought fine if he does not get his papers then I go live there but guess what he did not get them and married someone in his country.
now I am alone I have so many regrets I would not be alone now had I have not waited for so long.
And now I been single for about a year cause I am still trying to resolve those issue's I never want to hurt anyone the way I was.
So if he is from another country please run like hell
forget himLong distance relationships?
write him a letter,tell him how you feel,suggest married guidance
depends what you mean by long distance?
I was waiting for the love of my life to get his visa to come to the usa it never happened and I wasted 5 years of my life good years waiting and waiting.
I thought fine if he does not get his papers then I go live there but guess what he did not get them and married someone in his country.
now I am alone I have so many regrets I would not be alone now had I have not waited for so long.
And now I been single for about a year cause I am still trying to resolve those issue's I never want to hurt anyone the way I was.
So if he is from another country please run like hell
Long-Distance Relationship with my Gay Boyfriend?
Okay, so my boyfriend and I just met over the internet. He's 15 and I'm 14. However, I've seen him in a million pictures on his profile. I've talked to him on the phone, and I text him 24/7. I know he's not a predator, so that's out of the question. I love him with all my heart and he loves me. I keep on having dreams and weird thoughts that he would leave me for someone else. He promised me nothing would ever happen, and (to prove how much he loves me) he asked me to marry him (when we're older). He's giving up his whole summer to gaining money just to spend a week or two here with me. He lives in New York and I live in Kansas. Its too far away. I need to know how to deal with this distance until we can finally be together.Long-Distance Relationship with my Gay Boyfriend?
Be a kid. Quit trying to grow up so fast. Trust me on this.Long-Distance Relationship with my Gay Boyfriend?
oh, that's a sweet story! At your age just keep it the way it is. You don't need to have a serious relationship for atleast 5 more years. It takes decades to find mr. perfect. Just enjoy what you have. I had a long distance relationship when I was 16, I was impatient and found someone in my town to date. To this day I still regret not sticking with that guy. :-)
Like others in this group... ';Trust us';...
Get older... you have your whole life ahead of you to be dealing with this...
there are variables that you have no control over...No.#1... age...
you may think it's not fair... it's not... but you need to think outside the box... and your not... That comes with age and maturity...
';trust us';... i'm serious...
just focus on school, try to make friends, try to live ur life... enjoy a real boyfriend... not some1 u only talk to online or the phone... sorry... but... honestly...neither of u guys know what u want... u have so much to learn about and so much to experience
Be a kid. Quit trying to grow up so fast. Trust me on this.Long-Distance Relationship with my Gay Boyfriend?
oh, that's a sweet story! At your age just keep it the way it is. You don't need to have a serious relationship for atleast 5 more years. It takes decades to find mr. perfect. Just enjoy what you have. I had a long distance relationship when I was 16, I was impatient and found someone in my town to date. To this day I still regret not sticking with that guy. :-)
Like others in this group... ';Trust us';...
Get older... you have your whole life ahead of you to be dealing with this...
there are variables that you have no control over...No.#1... age...
you may think it's not fair... it's not... but you need to think outside the box... and your not... That comes with age and maturity...
';trust us';... i'm serious...
just focus on school, try to make friends, try to live ur life... enjoy a real boyfriend... not some1 u only talk to online or the phone... sorry... but... honestly...neither of u guys know what u want... u have so much to learn about and so much to experience
Long distance relationship between two teens... need help helping them?
I brought my friend to a country in Europe where my family is from. Her life sucks and I brought her there to take her away from all the crap. She's in midteens. While she was there, she met my cousin, later midteens. They totally clicked and connected. Now we are back and not only does she have to deal with being plunged into her awful life after week of bliss, she is now missing my cousin. So I need help helping them. I am worried about 100 things... I'm fairly certain this is real (they aren't just clicking because their desperate, for ex., they really really like eachother) but I need 2 know how 2 stop her from becoming dependent on him. she'll listen to my advise, i think.They are obviously not considering themselves a couple or anything like that. They are not going to try and have an adult long distance relationship. But they will want 2 c eachother and talk to eachother. So if you have been in a similar situation as a young teen, please, how did you deal with it healthily?Long distance relationship between two teens... need help helping them?
Just let them call each other. Nothing wrong with that. If they get tired of it at some point they'll end it right there. If they want to get to know each other better, they'll figure that out too. I moved to the US at the end of my teenage years, after school was done and it worked out.
Just let them call each other. Nothing wrong with that. If they get tired of it at some point they'll end it right there. If they want to get to know each other better, they'll figure that out too. I moved to the US at the end of my teenage years, after school was done and it worked out.
My Long Distance Relationship - Why Won't He Express Feelings For me?
I have been in a online long distance relationship with a recently divorced guy for 7 months. We had the opportunity of meeting one month later after first chatting and meeting him went very well.....Since meeting we talk every day or night for hours at a time and we really enjoy talking to one another. We've never been intimate one another, but we talk about it alot. We seem to have so alot in common. So here's the deal I'm in love with him and afraid to express my feelings for him, because I know that he's going through alot at this time and I don't want to pressure him. I've told him on many occasions that I really care for him and I also explain why I feel the way I do...He will blush, smile and say thank you and that's about it.....and we move on to another conversation. I have even asked him, how does he feel about me and he says that he likes me, but unable to tell me why.....I don't know maybe I'm expecting too much. What do you think?My Long Distance Relationship - Why Won't He Express Feelings For me?
things may not be completely on the up and up. i would expect a guy to be able to tell me a little more about his feelings for me after this long.
i really do not think you are expecting too much even if he is going thru alot...we all have life to deal with but you know how you feel so why doesn't he? i think he is stringing you along.My Long Distance Relationship - Why Won't He Express Feelings For me?
ok just ask him why he like you so much tell him that you have to no!! you ever no he mat be feeling the some way bout you but he is afaird just like you!!
things may not be completely on the up and up. i would expect a guy to be able to tell me a little more about his feelings for me after this long.
i really do not think you are expecting too much even if he is going thru alot...we all have life to deal with but you know how you feel so why doesn't he? i think he is stringing you along.My Long Distance Relationship - Why Won't He Express Feelings For me?
ok just ask him why he like you so much tell him that you have to no!! you ever no he mat be feeling the some way bout you but he is afaird just like you!!
Long distance relationship between two teens... need help helping them?
I brought my friend to a country in Europe where my family is from. Her life sucks and I brought her there to take her away from all the crap. She's in midteens. While she was there, she met my cousin, later midteens. They totally clicked and connected. Now we are back and not only does she have to deal with being plunged into her awful life after week of bliss, she is now missing my cousin. So I need help helping them. I am worried about 100 things... I'm fairly certain this is real (they aren't just clicking because their desperate, for ex., they really really like eachother) but I need 2 know how 2 stop her from becoming dependent on him. she'll listen to my advise, i think.They are obviously not considering themselves a couple or anything like that. They are not going to try and have an adult long distance relationship. But they will want 2 c eachother and talk to eachother. So if you have been in a similar situation as a young teen, please, how did you deal with it healthily?Long distance relationship between two teens... need help helping them?
well, what i assume is she doesnt have a very great home life. so maybe she could move to europe and live with your cousins or somethinghair cut styles myspace pics
well, what i assume is she doesnt have a very great home life. so maybe she could move to europe and live with your cousins or something
What is your opinion on long-distance relationships? Are they worth it?
I am very well aware of the ups and downs that are present when in a loving relationship with another person. But how does the typical relationship compare with a long-distance relationship? The distance between two people definitely tends to create more problems in a relationship but at the same time it may make you grow even fonder of that person. I have witnessed both sides of this concept. I know that it is definitely possible for them to work as long as both parties are truly willing to make them work. Some people are able to stick out the distance and others cannot. I am curious to hear other people鈥檚 opinion on this subject because I only know what I know from my personal experience. What do you think the reason is for some long-distance relationships failing? Why do you think some people can make them work when others cannot? Do you think they鈥檙e worth it? Could you deal with a long-distance relationship?What is your opinion on long-distance relationships? Are they worth it?
I was with my ex-girlfriend for over 5 years as a long distance relationship. You basically answered your question saying it takes commitment and a lot of work. We worked fine with the distance had met like 10 times or so and it always just felt right - it was never awkward when we met even the first time. She moved here after she finished school and we were together for about 6-7 months and ended it because she was so clingy and had no independence. She still lives here and it has been horribly awkward. I think it was worth it overall, but it sure is a lot of work and you have to be able to trust the other person completely.What is your opinion on long-distance relationships? Are they worth it?
i have been in a long distance relationship for 10 months. You have to be a faithful person and be able to trust the other person. You have to really love the person to be in this type of relationship. If you don't care enough about the person to wait til you can see them, you might as well not continue the relationship. I obviously am fine with it. I am happily engaged.
was in one for a year. it wasnt worth it
he wound up cheating on me
but then again, i had a crappy bf
Long distance relationships can work as long as you both are extremely committed to one another.
i personally would not suqqest them bcause u dont know if they are qoinq 2 cheat on u. %26amp; u wont ever really find out. i just simply dont like the idea
they are hard work but they could deffinetly be worth it
I think one major reason of failed LD relationships is trust issues. I really believe you have to click with the person 110% and put full trust into them. If not...well it most likely will not work out. Some people have been screwed over to many times in past relationships that they just cant help but to not put full trust in someone. Can you blame them? I sure couldn't. I definitely think it can be worth it. You build great communication with each other when you take the physical aspect away. You are just left with personality. And we all know that a huge deal is communication in a relationship. Could I deal with a LD relationship?...I think so. If the person gave me no reasons to not trust him and we clicked like none other. Sure. :o)
Well, to be honest, long distance relationships almost never work out because of the very fact that there is distance involved.
What generally happens is that if the two partners have little to no intimate and/or physcial contact with one another, human nature dictates that they will seek it out - unfortunately this means they seek it elsewhere, with someone else. It's not wrong per se, it's just that that is how we are - we require love, affection and physical closeness to another human being.
However this is not to say that long-distance relationships CAN'T work...it just means that the two involved will have to schedule a bit of together time (in person, not over computer or phone). If that's possible, then there's a good chance it might work for any period less than a year (if it's over a year, then the odds are not in your favor, again.).
So, having said that, if two people think it's worth it, then I say, ';go for it';...otherwise it's probably best to part as friends now and consider the option of rekindling a romance should the two get together at a later date.
I was with my ex-girlfriend for over 5 years as a long distance relationship. You basically answered your question saying it takes commitment and a lot of work. We worked fine with the distance had met like 10 times or so and it always just felt right - it was never awkward when we met even the first time. She moved here after she finished school and we were together for about 6-7 months and ended it because she was so clingy and had no independence. She still lives here and it has been horribly awkward. I think it was worth it overall, but it sure is a lot of work and you have to be able to trust the other person completely.What is your opinion on long-distance relationships? Are they worth it?
i have been in a long distance relationship for 10 months. You have to be a faithful person and be able to trust the other person. You have to really love the person to be in this type of relationship. If you don't care enough about the person to wait til you can see them, you might as well not continue the relationship. I obviously am fine with it. I am happily engaged.
was in one for a year. it wasnt worth it
he wound up cheating on me
but then again, i had a crappy bf
Long distance relationships can work as long as you both are extremely committed to one another.
i personally would not suqqest them bcause u dont know if they are qoinq 2 cheat on u. %26amp; u wont ever really find out. i just simply dont like the idea
they are hard work but they could deffinetly be worth it
I think one major reason of failed LD relationships is trust issues. I really believe you have to click with the person 110% and put full trust into them. If not...well it most likely will not work out. Some people have been screwed over to many times in past relationships that they just cant help but to not put full trust in someone. Can you blame them? I sure couldn't. I definitely think it can be worth it. You build great communication with each other when you take the physical aspect away. You are just left with personality. And we all know that a huge deal is communication in a relationship. Could I deal with a LD relationship?...I think so. If the person gave me no reasons to not trust him and we clicked like none other. Sure. :o)
Well, to be honest, long distance relationships almost never work out because of the very fact that there is distance involved.
What generally happens is that if the two partners have little to no intimate and/or physcial contact with one another, human nature dictates that they will seek it out - unfortunately this means they seek it elsewhere, with someone else. It's not wrong per se, it's just that that is how we are - we require love, affection and physical closeness to another human being.
However this is not to say that long-distance relationships CAN'T work...it just means that the two involved will have to schedule a bit of together time (in person, not over computer or phone). If that's possible, then there's a good chance it might work for any period less than a year (if it's over a year, then the odds are not in your favor, again.).
So, having said that, if two people think it's worth it, then I say, ';go for it';...otherwise it's probably best to part as friends now and consider the option of rekindling a romance should the two get together at a later date.
Long distance relationship tips???
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We are really serious, and we trust each other, so we aren't worried about cheating. We have been together for seven months, and his college is 800 km away from me. Can you give me ideas on how to deal with it? Or how to keep in touch well/ keep myself busy.
ALSO- I want to do something nice for him before he leaves, any ideas?Long distance relationship tips???
Snail Mail. Write letters in your own handwriting, scent it with your perfume. send pics. Write him as often as possible. Every once in a while kiss the letter with your lip stick.
I realize that in the computer age , you can keep in touch daily . there is just something about a letter and the written word that touches the soul more deeply than a computer ever could,
Buy him some stationary as a parting gift, it works both ways.
Make some memories , things that stick. all our memories are , are mental snap shots that flash before us in no particular order. Those flashes are traces of love.Long distance relationship tips???
I was in the same boat at the beginning of the summer. My bf joined the air force and we had to cope with not talking for months at a time. Keep yourself busy by hanging with your friends more. And when you do see each other its always great .
';Absence make the heart grow fonder';
Me and my girlfriend live in different contries and all i can say really is to keep up the communication with eachother.
Communication is the key to making this relationship last... it means you'll at least be alittle close to eachother no matter how far appart you may be.
Before he leaves you could go on a date with him and show him what you are made of. You could kiss him like you never kissed him before and show him a good time. When he leaves you could text him if you have a phone.. You could see each other on webcams and talk to him on msn.
I met my husband online. I'm Canadian, and he lives in Denmark. We were together about 5 years before getting married in March.
It's the hardest thing I have ever had to do. You will fight more when apart, but because you're frustrated. We talk through MSN, Skype, play online games together, etc. I'm just waiting on a Visa now
You could download Skype etc, and that way you can talk over the internet whenever you feel like it. Talk to him whenever you can and just talk to him about everything. Go on cam if you can. This stuff gets hard sometimes but it can be done.
just talk to him at lease once a day you could work or do something you treat him to nice lunchor dinner
ALSO- I want to do something nice for him before he leaves, any ideas?Long distance relationship tips???
Snail Mail. Write letters in your own handwriting, scent it with your perfume. send pics. Write him as often as possible. Every once in a while kiss the letter with your lip stick.
I realize that in the computer age , you can keep in touch daily . there is just something about a letter and the written word that touches the soul more deeply than a computer ever could,
Buy him some stationary as a parting gift, it works both ways.
Make some memories , things that stick. all our memories are , are mental snap shots that flash before us in no particular order. Those flashes are traces of love.Long distance relationship tips???
I was in the same boat at the beginning of the summer. My bf joined the air force and we had to cope with not talking for months at a time. Keep yourself busy by hanging with your friends more. And when you do see each other its always great .
';Absence make the heart grow fonder';
Me and my girlfriend live in different contries and all i can say really is to keep up the communication with eachother.
Communication is the key to making this relationship last... it means you'll at least be alittle close to eachother no matter how far appart you may be.
Before he leaves you could go on a date with him and show him what you are made of. You could kiss him like you never kissed him before and show him a good time. When he leaves you could text him if you have a phone.. You could see each other on webcams and talk to him on msn.
I met my husband online. I'm Canadian, and he lives in Denmark. We were together about 5 years before getting married in March.
It's the hardest thing I have ever had to do. You will fight more when apart, but because you're frustrated. We talk through MSN, Skype, play online games together, etc. I'm just waiting on a Visa now
You could download Skype etc, and that way you can talk over the internet whenever you feel like it. Talk to him whenever you can and just talk to him about everything. Go on cam if you can. This stuff gets hard sometimes but it can be done.
just talk to him at lease once a day you could work or do something you treat him to nice lunchor dinner
Long distance relationship, meeting someone else..?
If you have been in a long-distance relationship, have you ever met someone else closer that you麓ve felt attracted to?
What does that feel like? Do you feel bad or guilty? How do you deal with the new person? What happens in such situations?Long distance relationship, meeting someone else..?
I don't believe in long-distance relationships. Not unless you've been together years and years, then one moves to a different place and both of you work extra hard to keep it going knowing that the separation will last only for a short amount of time.
Having said that, cheating is cheating whether or not the other person is near or far from you. If you feel guilty about all this, then you are doing something wrong.
If you really like this new person then tell your bf/gf about it. Or break up with him/her if you really want to pursue this new relationship. But if you don't want to, then stop meeting this new person and stay away from him/her. Being together will just strengthen what you are feeling and you will be in a dangerous situation.Long distance relationship, meeting someone else..?
I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 7 months and i haven't met anyone else that i would consider leaving the love of my life for. My boyfriend feels the same. Thats because we have such a strong connection. if you just don't like the whole long distance relationship thing then talk to your boyfriend about it. If you can't do it anymore then break up.
It's wrong to cheat in relationships, you should know that!
What does that feel like? Do you feel bad or guilty? How do you deal with the new person? What happens in such situations?Long distance relationship, meeting someone else..?
I don't believe in long-distance relationships. Not unless you've been together years and years, then one moves to a different place and both of you work extra hard to keep it going knowing that the separation will last only for a short amount of time.
Having said that, cheating is cheating whether or not the other person is near or far from you. If you feel guilty about all this, then you are doing something wrong.
If you really like this new person then tell your bf/gf about it. Or break up with him/her if you really want to pursue this new relationship. But if you don't want to, then stop meeting this new person and stay away from him/her. Being together will just strengthen what you are feeling and you will be in a dangerous situation.Long distance relationship, meeting someone else..?
I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 7 months and i haven't met anyone else that i would consider leaving the love of my life for. My boyfriend feels the same. Thats because we have such a strong connection. if you just don't like the whole long distance relationship thing then talk to your boyfriend about it. If you can't do it anymore then break up.
It's wrong to cheat in relationships, you should know that!
Long Distance Relationship?
I am currently in a long distance relationship- well he lives about 2 hours away from me- and I was just wondering if anyone has any wisdom they can pass down to me regarding handling and learning to accept it?
Im having a very hard time with this long distance thing. He lives a hop, skip and a couple towns away but he works all the time and so do I. He works Sunday through Friday and I work Monday through Friday so Saturday is the only day we have time to see each other (but not always).
I guess what I am asking is to anyone who have been in this situation- How do you handle missing your significant other? how do you deal with not being able to be there for them or have them be there for you in tough times....? I find my self more upset over this relationship than I am happy about it. I really care about him and I don't want to jeopardize it in anyway but I cant help but let how I feel interfere.....Long Distance Relationship?
I am in one now and it is working so far. it gives you time to do what you want. now i'm not sure if you guys were together for a while before you started the long distance thing...but if you were then hopefully it should be stronger. one thing i would highly recommend is a web camera. sure, phones do the trick, but being able to see the one you love while you are talking to them is so much better. you can sort of pretend you're hanging out together...watch tv, play a game like battleship, or show off the new clothes you bought.
don't give up hope just yet. i was unhappy for a while at the beginning as well...but as long as you trust the person and have open communication you should be fine. keep yourself busy so the time passes by faster and you'll have plenty to talk about.
do you know when you will be able to live near each other again? hopefully you have a light at the end of the tunnel,Long Distance Relationship?
long distance relationships never work out. they result in both people being severely hurt, some to the point of not being able to trust another man/woman again. get out now, while you can!
im in a long-distance relationship myself my gf is in college during the day but i always chat with her online after she gets done studying. everything is working out fine with me and her bc we trust one another.
Im having a very hard time with this long distance thing. He lives a hop, skip and a couple towns away but he works all the time and so do I. He works Sunday through Friday and I work Monday through Friday so Saturday is the only day we have time to see each other (but not always).
I guess what I am asking is to anyone who have been in this situation- How do you handle missing your significant other? how do you deal with not being able to be there for them or have them be there for you in tough times....? I find my self more upset over this relationship than I am happy about it. I really care about him and I don't want to jeopardize it in anyway but I cant help but let how I feel interfere.....Long Distance Relationship?
I am in one now and it is working so far. it gives you time to do what you want. now i'm not sure if you guys were together for a while before you started the long distance thing...but if you were then hopefully it should be stronger. one thing i would highly recommend is a web camera. sure, phones do the trick, but being able to see the one you love while you are talking to them is so much better. you can sort of pretend you're hanging out together...watch tv, play a game like battleship, or show off the new clothes you bought.
don't give up hope just yet. i was unhappy for a while at the beginning as well...but as long as you trust the person and have open communication you should be fine. keep yourself busy so the time passes by faster and you'll have plenty to talk about.
do you know when you will be able to live near each other again? hopefully you have a light at the end of the tunnel,Long Distance Relationship?
long distance relationships never work out. they result in both people being severely hurt, some to the point of not being able to trust another man/woman again. get out now, while you can!
im in a long-distance relationship myself my gf is in college during the day but i always chat with her online after she gets done studying. everything is working out fine with me and her bc we trust one another.
People with long distance relationships?
my boyfriend live almost three hours away working, we have a three month old son together, i visit him sometimes and stay for a week but even then i only see him a few hours a day because he works so much and needs lots of sleep, he visits me once a week usually, i miss him so much it hurts so bad i don't know how to work through this, how do other people deal with their long distance relationships?People with long distance relationships?
People who deal with long distance relationship is difficult but for those who success tend to have commitment and wants to make it work to have this relationship strong. What from you explained above your boyfriend is working a lot and visiting you little bit so he puts his job as priority. So how to work it is to tell your boyfriend how you feel, and see if he wants to have this relationship make it work. Important to keep communicate because if you don't tell you how you feel then you would kiss this relationship good bye or he give up first.People with long distance relationships?
i started to date this guy. he lived a hour away and then he moved closer to me. 20 min. it works out for us bc we don't go to the same school. so we don't have that he said/did she said/did drama. but u do have to love and trust ur guy. or it want work. trust is the #1 key to long distance relays..but since you have a kid. i would just move in together. and i know what you mean by short time visits. i don't like that there short either. i think it will help a lot if you would move in together.
good luck!
few suffer like you and others maintain spare partners
see if he can get a job transfer closer to you i hope things work outhair cut styles myspace pics
People who deal with long distance relationship is difficult but for those who success tend to have commitment and wants to make it work to have this relationship strong. What from you explained above your boyfriend is working a lot and visiting you little bit so he puts his job as priority. So how to work it is to tell your boyfriend how you feel, and see if he wants to have this relationship make it work. Important to keep communicate because if you don't tell you how you feel then you would kiss this relationship good bye or he give up first.People with long distance relationships?
i started to date this guy. he lived a hour away and then he moved closer to me. 20 min. it works out for us bc we don't go to the same school. so we don't have that he said/did she said/did drama. but u do have to love and trust ur guy. or it want work. trust is the #1 key to long distance relays..but since you have a kid. i would just move in together. and i know what you mean by short time visits. i don't like that there short either. i think it will help a lot if you would move in together.
good luck!
few suffer like you and others maintain spare partners
see if he can get a job transfer closer to you i hope things work out
I'm 29, and I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy in Luxembourg for 3 years now. He said he loves me.
I met this guy in Paris. He is from Italy. Then I went to China for work. He has visited me twice in Paris and twice in the Far East. That's a total of three years long distance relationship. We both spent a lot of money in internaional phone calls, sms. We chat almost everyday on yahoo. I have been trying to get employment in his area Luxembourg, but it's not one of the easiest places to find work as a teacher. But inspite of how much he ';loves'; me, he is not willing or ready to marry me, since he said it's against his principles. But I don't see it that way. We love each other and this distance is causing us a great deal of pain. Besides, he said I'm one woman he truly enjoys conversations and exchange of ideas, even outside of the relationship. Now I'm working on getting an employment contract in Spain, it's nearer to Luxembourg than China just to stay nearer to him. I'm now very close, it will take less than a year. But he says he wants to stop this relationship.I'm 29, and I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy in Luxembourg for 3 years now. He said he loves me.
He has been dishonest with you. You can't change a dishonest person. Don't put all of your stock into a relationship that is on shaky ground. Move on and find someone that will be able to commit to you. Why waste any more of your young years on him?
I stayed with a man for twelve years that would not commit. He kept saying that it would happen eventually. It didn't, and by the time I left him, I realized that I was 12 years older with less to offer, and fewer opportunities to choose from. Don't waste your life too. You deserve better.I'm 29, and I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy in Luxembourg for 3 years now. He said he loves me.
Oh hell no. When a guy leaves you for another girl and comes crawling back don't accept him back in you're life because he might do it again! you can never trust a guy like that. No wonder why he didn't wanna marry you.
I would dump him and find another that will never dump me and stay with me and never broke my heart so take my advice in move on find someone that will never hurt u or lie that will take care of u 4 ever
MOOOOOOOOVE ON. dont waste any more time than you have already.
Wash that man right outta your hair!
I would move on. It sounds like he prefers the distance because it allows him to do things with other people. Don't rearrange your life for him, because he is not willing to do it for you. If you move this relationship seems like it will end, he doesn't want anything serious from you.
The thing about long distance relationships is that they select for the commitment-phobes... It's so easy to say ';I love you'; when the consequences of saying it are near-meaningless.
And, as far as I've ever seen, anti-marriage ';principles'; go right out the window when a guy is really in love. When he's in love, he'll be ready to marry you.
That's how you tell that this one isn't on the right track. Not to say that you shouldn't go to Spain. But find a nice young Spanish man to love. Nearby.
... Love is a lot about proximity and familiarity. It's not romantic to say that, but it is.
Good luck!
I'd forget about him, and move on with my life here. You really don't get to know a person until you've lived with them for quite some time, and a few weeks here and there + phone calls is NOT truly living with and learning about someone.
I know this isnt what you want to hear, but you're his ';fantasy'; girl - he can be whoever he wants to be, or who you want him to be while hes talking to you. It's not really him. Thats why he doesn't want things moving forward at all. He knows the fantasy would be over, and he's not interested in reality. He uses you to escape from it now.
It sounds like a facade, even though he probably does care for you. Thats why he doesnt want you moving to where he is - he'd have to let down the facade and disappoint you, or disappoint himself, and lose the fantasy of it all. You give him attention in the ways he needs it to feel good about himself, and its safe that way, because you're miles and miles away. He can carry on with business as usual at home, and no matter what he's done that day, he can talk to you at night and feel like a good man who is desired and loved unconditionally.
You deserve more than that. You don't have to build up a man that far away - especially one who claims to care for you that much. If he really cared that much, he would have moved near you by now, or jumped at the chance for you to move near him. He's dragging his feet because he doesn't want the party to be over. Its going to hurt, but lose him.
He has been dishonest with you. You can't change a dishonest person. Don't put all of your stock into a relationship that is on shaky ground. Move on and find someone that will be able to commit to you. Why waste any more of your young years on him?
I stayed with a man for twelve years that would not commit. He kept saying that it would happen eventually. It didn't, and by the time I left him, I realized that I was 12 years older with less to offer, and fewer opportunities to choose from. Don't waste your life too. You deserve better.I'm 29, and I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy in Luxembourg for 3 years now. He said he loves me.
Oh hell no. When a guy leaves you for another girl and comes crawling back don't accept him back in you're life because he might do it again! you can never trust a guy like that. No wonder why he didn't wanna marry you.
I would dump him and find another that will never dump me and stay with me and never broke my heart so take my advice in move on find someone that will never hurt u or lie that will take care of u 4 ever
MOOOOOOOOVE ON. dont waste any more time than you have already.
Wash that man right outta your hair!
I would move on. It sounds like he prefers the distance because it allows him to do things with other people. Don't rearrange your life for him, because he is not willing to do it for you. If you move this relationship seems like it will end, he doesn't want anything serious from you.
The thing about long distance relationships is that they select for the commitment-phobes... It's so easy to say ';I love you'; when the consequences of saying it are near-meaningless.
And, as far as I've ever seen, anti-marriage ';principles'; go right out the window when a guy is really in love. When he's in love, he'll be ready to marry you.
That's how you tell that this one isn't on the right track. Not to say that you shouldn't go to Spain. But find a nice young Spanish man to love. Nearby.
... Love is a lot about proximity and familiarity. It's not romantic to say that, but it is.
Good luck!
I'd forget about him, and move on with my life here. You really don't get to know a person until you've lived with them for quite some time, and a few weeks here and there + phone calls is NOT truly living with and learning about someone.
I know this isnt what you want to hear, but you're his ';fantasy'; girl - he can be whoever he wants to be, or who you want him to be while hes talking to you. It's not really him. Thats why he doesn't want things moving forward at all. He knows the fantasy would be over, and he's not interested in reality. He uses you to escape from it now.
It sounds like a facade, even though he probably does care for you. Thats why he doesnt want you moving to where he is - he'd have to let down the facade and disappoint you, or disappoint himself, and lose the fantasy of it all. You give him attention in the ways he needs it to feel good about himself, and its safe that way, because you're miles and miles away. He can carry on with business as usual at home, and no matter what he's done that day, he can talk to you at night and feel like a good man who is desired and loved unconditionally.
You deserve more than that. You don't have to build up a man that far away - especially one who claims to care for you that much. If he really cared that much, he would have moved near you by now, or jumped at the chance for you to move near him. He's dragging his feet because he doesn't want the party to be over. Its going to hurt, but lose him.
Anyone in a long-distance relationship that can help?
I've been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years and we love each other very much. We're serious about each other - we've met each others families etc, and been through a lot together and I know that he's the One for me. It's been hard but we've spoken about our future together and in the not-too-distant future, I hope to move to where he is. So all in all, I couldn't ask for more.
Recently however, my other half has been stressing me (a lot) about the future of our relationship and where we are heading. We had a argument in which he told me that he loves me (more than anything and will always love me,that I'm his best friend etc), but he's been finding the distance between us really difficult. This of course, really freaked me out, but we've since resolved it. We've been making renewed efforts to talk more an text each other and I should be seeing him very soon.
The problem is basically that the conversation we had has left me feeling very insecure about our relationship and how he feels for me. I feel like I need constant reassurance that he's not going to end things. I take the most insignificant things as signs that he's getting tired of me (although I have not shown this) and I'm having reccuring nightmares that he's leaving me for someone else. It's really difficult because I've never felt like this before about him and I've always been confident that we'll be together.
I guess my question is how do I deal with these feelings without damaging my relationship? How do I tell him about how the argument we had made me feel vulnerable without coming across as a Klingon that can't cope with her boyfriend being in another country. I love him more than I can explain and need help from fellow LDRs!!!Anyone in a long-distance relationship that can help?
He probably just wants you to mov there faster. He's finding the distance difficult because he knows you'll be together properly soon - but he wants you there NOW. Don't stress, he just loves you, and obviously the distance has been difficult over the past couple of years - but the end is in sight.
And if he says he's your best friend and loves you then he won't think you're an insecure Klingon. Just tell him you're worried, and reassure him you can't wait to see him too.
You're probably both as worried as each other. Don't let one fight get you down out of two yeasr of a good relationship.Anyone in a long-distance relationship that can help?
You need to cool it. He did not say that he is leaving you right? Maybe he himself needs reassurance from you, too. Don't think too much, you might even freak yourself out more than before. Think positively. If you both love each other, other things can be solved together. Hope this help.
My very 1st relationship was long distance, when i went off to college. It did not last, he talked about me meeting other guys and bla bla. I didnt know if this was really true or to his benefit because he could not handle it. I was scared he would leave me a message or call saying he couldn't do it but that made room for a good guy he could handle it. My next relationship was long distance for about 3 years and it worked. He was ok with it and I was too even tho I took it a lot harder then the 1st because we did not start off in a LDR and in the 1st relationship, I didn't have a chance to be in love. It did take some time getting used to and he waited until I finsihed school and now I am back home! You should tell him how you feel and only he can clear your concerns.
Recently however, my other half has been stressing me (a lot) about the future of our relationship and where we are heading. We had a argument in which he told me that he loves me (more than anything and will always love me,that I'm his best friend etc), but he's been finding the distance between us really difficult. This of course, really freaked me out, but we've since resolved it. We've been making renewed efforts to talk more an text each other and I should be seeing him very soon.
The problem is basically that the conversation we had has left me feeling very insecure about our relationship and how he feels for me. I feel like I need constant reassurance that he's not going to end things. I take the most insignificant things as signs that he's getting tired of me (although I have not shown this) and I'm having reccuring nightmares that he's leaving me for someone else. It's really difficult because I've never felt like this before about him and I've always been confident that we'll be together.
I guess my question is how do I deal with these feelings without damaging my relationship? How do I tell him about how the argument we had made me feel vulnerable without coming across as a Klingon that can't cope with her boyfriend being in another country. I love him more than I can explain and need help from fellow LDRs!!!Anyone in a long-distance relationship that can help?
He probably just wants you to mov there faster. He's finding the distance difficult because he knows you'll be together properly soon - but he wants you there NOW. Don't stress, he just loves you, and obviously the distance has been difficult over the past couple of years - but the end is in sight.
And if he says he's your best friend and loves you then he won't think you're an insecure Klingon. Just tell him you're worried, and reassure him you can't wait to see him too.
You're probably both as worried as each other. Don't let one fight get you down out of two yeasr of a good relationship.Anyone in a long-distance relationship that can help?
You need to cool it. He did not say that he is leaving you right? Maybe he himself needs reassurance from you, too. Don't think too much, you might even freak yourself out more than before. Think positively. If you both love each other, other things can be solved together. Hope this help.
My very 1st relationship was long distance, when i went off to college. It did not last, he talked about me meeting other guys and bla bla. I didnt know if this was really true or to his benefit because he could not handle it. I was scared he would leave me a message or call saying he couldn't do it but that made room for a good guy he could handle it. My next relationship was long distance for about 3 years and it worked. He was ok with it and I was too even tho I took it a lot harder then the 1st because we did not start off in a LDR and in the 1st relationship, I didn't have a chance to be in love. It did take some time getting used to and he waited until I finsihed school and now I am back home! You should tell him how you feel and only he can clear your concerns.
How do I get back with my EX from a long distance relationship?
Ok, I'm gonna lay all this out here so no one gets the wrong idea of what kind of girl I'm dealing with. To this point, she has never BS'ed me, never lied to me. Her friends tell me she's a great girl and what not. Now..we're seperated by about 300 miles distance, I truly do feel this is the love of my life. She told me a couple days ago she didn't want to feel guilty she doesn't have the time to call me anymore, because she is busy with other things at home, which I did know about. She assured me there's no other guy and where the question actually starts is....she said to me we should get back in our relationship a few months down the road when she has sorted her stuff out. What I want to know is how do I go about trying to get back in her life? Oh, we used to live close 2 years ago, she lived less than 30 miles from me so it wasn't a big deal then, our relationship has lasted 6 months, before that we were only friends. please help me I don't know what to do, I'm lost without her.How do I get back with my EX from a long distance relationship?
I do really understand your status. I would like to ask you a question. Do you want to have your lovest together forever? How do you know your recent gf is the lovest one. I am not query on your love. However, I would recommend that you have to respect to gf's suggestion not to contact for a period, which can proof that girl are your lovest or not. After that, if she are really have another bf, it is a best choice for your to maintain the relationship hardly. Times can't represent how love you are. But times can test you how deep to your love?How do I get back with my EX from a long distance relationship?
If you have email-You two could keep in touch like that or even mail each other! Depending on how old y'all are_ You could even drive to see her at least once a month %26amp; she could do the same. But like I said earlier: ';How old are you?';
when u get the answer forward it to me
If your here seriously asking this question. I think you should be rethinking your relationship!
I know you dont know the solution, but I believe with love if she is meant for you she is meant for you and things will fall into place on its own.
JUST DO IT!
I do really understand your status. I would like to ask you a question. Do you want to have your lovest together forever? How do you know your recent gf is the lovest one. I am not query on your love. However, I would recommend that you have to respect to gf's suggestion not to contact for a period, which can proof that girl are your lovest or not. After that, if she are really have another bf, it is a best choice for your to maintain the relationship hardly. Times can't represent how love you are. But times can test you how deep to your love?How do I get back with my EX from a long distance relationship?
If you have email-You two could keep in touch like that or even mail each other! Depending on how old y'all are_ You could even drive to see her at least once a month %26amp; she could do the same. But like I said earlier: ';How old are you?';
when u get the answer forward it to me
If your here seriously asking this question. I think you should be rethinking your relationship!
I know you dont know the solution, but I believe with love if she is meant for you she is meant for you and things will fall into place on its own.
JUST DO IT!
Me And My Girlfriend are doing a long distance relationship right now.?
I really love the girl but I don't know how to deal with the distance issue......what are some ways to keep our relationship healthy until I can see her again on a permanent basis?Me And My Girlfriend are doing a long distance relationship right now.?
Emails, phone calls ect. And actually setting a date of the next time you will see each other, Giving you both something to look forward to.Me And My Girlfriend are doing a long distance relationship right now.?
I've been through that and I can tell you that some of the ways you can do to keep it healthy is to call her every other day. It's not wise to call EVERY day. One thing that I did was I would call one day and then not call for two or three days. The result? That allows HER to miss YOU every now and then. That keeps things fresh and lively. There is a saying that goes ';Absence makes the heart grow fonder.'; You could write a letter or send a card or both to let her know how much you miss and think about her. That'll be OK.
BTW, how far is the distance between you two? When I went through mine, I stayed in the Lower Peninsula of Michigan and my GF stayed in the Upper Peninsula. It was over 300 miles.
im in a long distance relationship right now and its HARD.
but just talk to her for a couple minutes. and she will feel worth your time. %26amp;%26amp; just try your hardest to see her as often as possible.
good luck :)
Talk to her EVERY DAY- even if only for a few minutes. Visit a few times before making the ';final call';.
call and txt alot send her gifts unexpected to let her know she's on your mind all the time.
do her and she will know its worth the wait
Emails, phone calls ect. And actually setting a date of the next time you will see each other, Giving you both something to look forward to.Me And My Girlfriend are doing a long distance relationship right now.?
I've been through that and I can tell you that some of the ways you can do to keep it healthy is to call her every other day. It's not wise to call EVERY day. One thing that I did was I would call one day and then not call for two or three days. The result? That allows HER to miss YOU every now and then. That keeps things fresh and lively. There is a saying that goes ';Absence makes the heart grow fonder.'; You could write a letter or send a card or both to let her know how much you miss and think about her. That'll be OK.
BTW, how far is the distance between you two? When I went through mine, I stayed in the Lower Peninsula of Michigan and my GF stayed in the Upper Peninsula. It was over 300 miles.
im in a long distance relationship right now and its HARD.
but just talk to her for a couple minutes. and she will feel worth your time. %26amp;%26amp; just try your hardest to see her as often as possible.
good luck :)
Talk to her EVERY DAY- even if only for a few minutes. Visit a few times before making the ';final call';.
call and txt alot send her gifts unexpected to let her know she's on your mind all the time.
do her and she will know its worth the wait
Stressed over long distance relationship?
I'm completely in love with my boyfriend, and trust him 100%, he trusts me as well, that's not an issue with us, but he's in the army and stationed 1800 miles away. we started dating while he was home on leave and he's now been gone for over 4 weeks. We are planning a trip for me to come down to see him in about 3 weeks but i'm so stressed! Its hard when i don't get to talk to him as much as I would like, I wonder what he's doing (not bc i think he's doing something he shouldn't be, just missing him and wondering what he's doing with his day). I go through the phases of loving him, wishing he were home, missing him, being mad if I don't hear from him, crying, not being sure if this is worth the stress, but always wanting nothing more than just to be in his arms and have him home again. He should be done w/ the army in Dec/Jan, so its only another 6 months but idk if I can deal with this stress for that long. I don't want to be with anyone else, but I'm just so stressed and idk how to handle it, I'm not sure if this is completely normal for a long distance relationship or if it means there is something wrong between us, someone plz help me. Don't just say ldr can never work, bc i believe if you love someone it can, I'm just not sure how to cope with my feelings. Any advice, tips, experiences would be helpful! Thank you!!!Stressed over long distance relationship?
It is completely normal to feel this kind of stress when in a long distance relationship. If you love him as much as you say you do it will work trust me. My ex bf was stationed on the other side of the world and we made it work for 6 months. We ended up breaking up for other reasons. But it worked for us because we loved each other. It will only get easier trust me, because you will get used to it. Then when he's home everything will be so much easier and you will realize it was all worth it.
It is completely normal to feel this kind of stress when in a long distance relationship. If you love him as much as you say you do it will work trust me. My ex bf was stationed on the other side of the world and we made it work for 6 months. We ended up breaking up for other reasons. But it worked for us because we loved each other. It will only get easier trust me, because you will get used to it. Then when he's home everything will be so much easier and you will realize it was all worth it.
Long distance relationship blues please help?
my boyfriend and I have been in a long distance realtionship for more than two years we are both almost 18 but at the moment im going through a tough time and finding it really difficult to stop feeling so upset everytime we have to leave each other. we see each other for at least 2 days at a time every 2-4 weeks. and when we upon saying goodbye I always get upset worrying about his saftey while we are away from each other and genrally just feeling depressed. When hes gone i dont do the things i want to because they all somehow remind me of him or make me feel sad. hopefully we only have to deal with the distance for another half a year or so, but for now i really want some good tips on how to cope with this upset.Long distance relationship blues please help?
I used to have the same problem the first two times that my bf has to go back home. We have been together for 4 years now. I live in the U.S. and he lives in Germany. We try to see eachother at least one time out of the year when we are both on break. The first two time I dragged myself around the house crying when i would see the empty guest room or not being able to cuddle on the sofa with him when a movie was on. It was horrible. What i do now is busy myself with projects. I reorganize my room, go back to my painting, i also start working on my scrapbook. I develop all the pictures that we took or ticket stubs for our trips and i make a scrapbook. I just wanted to let you know that being sad and upset it perfectly normal and it great that you ony have a year or less to deal with an LDR. Good luck i hope i helped a least a little. :)Long distance relationship blues please help?
hmm the best i can think of is to get out of the house and do something with your friends. go shopping or have a ';ladies day out'; or something. just try to get out and do something so your mind is concentrating on other things.
i'm in a long distance relationship too and whenever i'm upset i try to get out to get my mind off of it.
also, talking about it with a good friend or family member might help.
it works most of the time for me, so good luck and hope it helps! :)
~Jazhair cut styles myspace pics
I used to have the same problem the first two times that my bf has to go back home. We have been together for 4 years now. I live in the U.S. and he lives in Germany. We try to see eachother at least one time out of the year when we are both on break. The first two time I dragged myself around the house crying when i would see the empty guest room or not being able to cuddle on the sofa with him when a movie was on. It was horrible. What i do now is busy myself with projects. I reorganize my room, go back to my painting, i also start working on my scrapbook. I develop all the pictures that we took or ticket stubs for our trips and i make a scrapbook. I just wanted to let you know that being sad and upset it perfectly normal and it great that you ony have a year or less to deal with an LDR. Good luck i hope i helped a least a little. :)Long distance relationship blues please help?
hmm the best i can think of is to get out of the house and do something with your friends. go shopping or have a ';ladies day out'; or something. just try to get out and do something so your mind is concentrating on other things.
i'm in a long distance relationship too and whenever i'm upset i try to get out to get my mind off of it.
also, talking about it with a good friend or family member might help.
it works most of the time for me, so good luck and hope it helps! :)
~Jaz
How to maintain a long distance relationship...? Help
My boyfriend and I are extremely close and everything is going great except for the fact that he leaves September 25 for college. He is going to be 6 hours away. Starting at the beginning of September I'm starting school and I have a lot of responsibilities on my plate. He is going to buy me a video cam to hook up to my computer so we can see each other and talk, but I know it's still going to be hard. We have seen each other..pretty much every day for 3 months straight. I'm leaving state to work for ten days and we are dreading that. It's hard going that little bit, how can I do this for longer periods of time? How do you deal with this? Does this strain your relationship? I think it's going to be really hard for the two of us to love each other so much and not be together. It's definitely worth it though. What kinds of things do you do to keep it together? How to maintain a long distance relationship...? Help
with technology you can communicate easier then a letter. If you young and goin for your dreams do whats important.How to maintain a long distance relationship...? Help
No, no can not maintain long distance the relationhip.
If you guys really do love each other, your relationship will prevail and blossom. You will appreciate each other 10x more every time you get to see each other. It will transform an every day ';date'; into something special.
Talk to each other every day!
Don't pick fights over stupid things that get you irritated
Try not to call when you know you are in a snappy mood
Swap Myspaces/blogs
The camera is a good idea
Save up to fly in to see each other every so often
Make a countdown till the day you see each other like a New Year's celebration countdown
Don't be tempted by other guys by not putting yourself in the situation
Send each other gifts
Write each other sweet letters
If you guys have sex or ';do things'; try phone sex or webcam sex
**Most importantly- STAY HONEST AND KEEP COMMUNICATION CLEAR
I think long distance relationships are the best ones. It's more exciting when you finally get the chance to see someone if you don't see them that often.
I wouldn't go as far as getting a cam, but hey what ever floats your boat.
I think when two responsible indivduals want to have a relationship and work it out....it's easy as 123.
Realize that you most likely only have three options: she moves to him, he moves to her or both move to another place. Start talking about it as soon as you realize that you want to be together. The biggest mistake you can make is to hush it up.
with technology you can communicate easier then a letter. If you young and goin for your dreams do whats important.How to maintain a long distance relationship...? Help
No, no can not maintain long distance the relationhip.
If you guys really do love each other, your relationship will prevail and blossom. You will appreciate each other 10x more every time you get to see each other. It will transform an every day ';date'; into something special.
Talk to each other every day!
Don't pick fights over stupid things that get you irritated
Try not to call when you know you are in a snappy mood
Swap Myspaces/blogs
The camera is a good idea
Save up to fly in to see each other every so often
Make a countdown till the day you see each other like a New Year's celebration countdown
Don't be tempted by other guys by not putting yourself in the situation
Send each other gifts
Write each other sweet letters
If you guys have sex or ';do things'; try phone sex or webcam sex
**Most importantly- STAY HONEST AND KEEP COMMUNICATION CLEAR
I think long distance relationships are the best ones. It's more exciting when you finally get the chance to see someone if you don't see them that often.
I wouldn't go as far as getting a cam, but hey what ever floats your boat.
I think when two responsible indivduals want to have a relationship and work it out....it's easy as 123.
Realize that you most likely only have three options: she moves to him, he moves to her or both move to another place. Start talking about it as soon as you realize that you want to be together. The biggest mistake you can make is to hush it up.
My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship.?
We've been dating almost a year, but i moved 3 hours away about a month ago. It's getting really hard for her to deal with and we want to make it work but don't know how...what can I do to make it work?My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship.?
try talking once a week or what ever is best for you both
chatting on-line if you both can.
have phone sex,cyber sex
just keep in contact.
and when you can visit her surprise her with flowers, and open arms to embrace her and make her feel alrightMy girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship.?
oh my gosh im going through the same thing with my boyfriend.
and hes 3 hours away too!
well you can always go visit her.
its not that far. or you guys can meet halfway.
or you can come up with cute things to
do on the phone. like watch the same movie at
the same time. its like your on a date together:)
message me if you need to
talk to someone. we're having a hard time too
try talking once a week or what ever is best for you both
chatting on-line if you both can.
have phone sex,cyber sex
just keep in contact.
and when you can visit her surprise her with flowers, and open arms to embrace her and make her feel alrightMy girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship.?
oh my gosh im going through the same thing with my boyfriend.
and hes 3 hours away too!
well you can always go visit her.
its not that far. or you guys can meet halfway.
or you can come up with cute things to
do on the phone. like watch the same movie at
the same time. its like your on a date together:)
message me if you need to
talk to someone. we're having a hard time too
Long distance relationship sex therapy?
My boyfriend and I met in person we have a long and wonderful history. My question isn't about whether or not i should be in a long distance relationship. My question is how can we deal with the sexual factor of our relationship. We've been together for 7 months this week and we send pictures but cant webcam. What can we do to ease the tension. Is there an easy way to ease into phone sex without ruining our relationship? Please help!!!Long distance relationship sex therapy?
phone sex helps i really see no problem in doing it over the phone. just remember don't be boring share ever detail to him and take it slow to build it all up. don't stop in the middle of it too and give him blue balls. that would really piss him offLong distance relationship sex therapy?
Sex between two willing partners is a matter of extreme privacy as well as mutual consent depending on various factors like age, safety and societal circumstances. In my personal opinion sex is an important ingredient in a healthy relationship but matters get complicated when we think about it as some special act of amusement and it occupies our mind most of the time creating obstacles and problems in our daily routine life.
You should discuss it openly and thoroughly - the desire, the practicality and the possible consequences that may arise later. Having good physical relationship will free up your mind and you both can be more productive as a result. The first thing you should do is learn about safe sex, if you don't then note one thing very clearly - a small mistake can ruin your life, for example if you get pregnant or have some infection. This is not to scare you but to make my point clear.
My advice is - go enjoy your life with free mind but with care and consideration.
Try doing it for 2 years, like I've had to do.....without ever meeting....theres nothing you can really do, besides that. Make frequent trips. Everything else like webcams, phone sex, what not, grows very thin, very quickly.
It all depends on how long you plan to be separated and how old you are. If you're in high school, for instance, and he's gone off to college, it's best that you simply break up and move on. When you're both done with college, if you're both single, you can get back together.
But if you're older and both settled in your lives (done with college and working at your regular, long-term jobs), then you don't need to break up if you're only going to be separated for a few months. If it's more or less a permanent separation, the spare yourself and your boyfriend and go ahead and break up.
Really, you'll be much better off to free each other to find someone more compatible if only because the other person is local.
If you're planning to stay together through a short separation, there's nothing wrong with phone sex assuming that you've had actual sex at some point. I can't imagine that it's satisfying, though.
And reading the Bible has got to be the worse advice ever. I hope you ignore it.
You need to meet in person.
All that non-sexual sex is just a frustrating alternative.
It might make you crazy too.
Masturbate, web cam, phone sex, writing sexy letters and sending sexy pics or if all else fails, go read the bible.
humorously there are actually toys designed for that these days.
So... you can conceivably actually have sex remotely, enjoy :)
Well I would suggest maybe record yourself masturbating and have him do the same and if you want it to be over the phone just do an audio recording and try it that way first and it will most likely make you both feel more omfortable and less shy or embarresed.
phone sex, sexting, webcam work well. then when you do see each other, make the most of it :-) it'll probably mean more to you to be together, if you don't see each other often. good luck :-)
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phone sex helps i really see no problem in doing it over the phone. just remember don't be boring share ever detail to him and take it slow to build it all up. don't stop in the middle of it too and give him blue balls. that would really piss him offLong distance relationship sex therapy?
Sex between two willing partners is a matter of extreme privacy as well as mutual consent depending on various factors like age, safety and societal circumstances. In my personal opinion sex is an important ingredient in a healthy relationship but matters get complicated when we think about it as some special act of amusement and it occupies our mind most of the time creating obstacles and problems in our daily routine life.
You should discuss it openly and thoroughly - the desire, the practicality and the possible consequences that may arise later. Having good physical relationship will free up your mind and you both can be more productive as a result. The first thing you should do is learn about safe sex, if you don't then note one thing very clearly - a small mistake can ruin your life, for example if you get pregnant or have some infection. This is not to scare you but to make my point clear.
My advice is - go enjoy your life with free mind but with care and consideration.
Try doing it for 2 years, like I've had to do.....without ever meeting....theres nothing you can really do, besides that. Make frequent trips. Everything else like webcams, phone sex, what not, grows very thin, very quickly.
It all depends on how long you plan to be separated and how old you are. If you're in high school, for instance, and he's gone off to college, it's best that you simply break up and move on. When you're both done with college, if you're both single, you can get back together.
But if you're older and both settled in your lives (done with college and working at your regular, long-term jobs), then you don't need to break up if you're only going to be separated for a few months. If it's more or less a permanent separation, the spare yourself and your boyfriend and go ahead and break up.
Really, you'll be much better off to free each other to find someone more compatible if only because the other person is local.
If you're planning to stay together through a short separation, there's nothing wrong with phone sex assuming that you've had actual sex at some point. I can't imagine that it's satisfying, though.
And reading the Bible has got to be the worse advice ever. I hope you ignore it.
You need to meet in person.
All that non-sexual sex is just a frustrating alternative.
It might make you crazy too.
Masturbate, web cam, phone sex, writing sexy letters and sending sexy pics or if all else fails, go read the bible.
humorously there are actually toys designed for that these days.
So... you can conceivably actually have sex remotely, enjoy :)
Well I would suggest maybe record yourself masturbating and have him do the same and if you want it to be over the phone just do an audio recording and try it that way first and it will most likely make you both feel more omfortable and less shy or embarresed.
phone sex, sexting, webcam work well. then when you do see each other, make the most of it :-) it'll probably mean more to you to be together, if you don't see each other often. good luck :-)
someone answer mine please thanks!
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Long distance relationship for a few years?
I realize I might want to pursue a doctorate when I finish my grad school in may, and I've been looking hard at a school on the east coast. Everyone seems to be totally behind the idea, except for my girlfriend. Don't ge tme wrong, she says it's good and I should go for it, but I can't help sense there's some anxiety about me leaving for 3+ years.
I avoid the subject because I know it's difficult to talk to her about. We've been together almost 2 years now and I love her, but I don't know if she can handle a long distance relationship, especially for multiple years. We see each other nearly every day and she still says I don't spend enough time with her.
Is this something we should be discussing alot, or should I just wait and apply and see what happens and then start talking about it? Girls, how would you deal with this if I were your man and you thought we were never together enough as it is?Long distance relationship for a few years?
It is something you should discuss a lot.
Don't just apply and then I'll see. Situations like that seem to be easier to handle, but there are always traces of resentment that don't vanish. (Believe me, I have 22 yrs marriage, and things pop up after years!) The anger she might face at your deciding alone can bea major factor in breaking up in the future.
I avoid the subject because I know it's difficult to talk to her about. We've been together almost 2 years now and I love her, but I don't know if she can handle a long distance relationship, especially for multiple years. We see each other nearly every day and she still says I don't spend enough time with her.
Is this something we should be discussing alot, or should I just wait and apply and see what happens and then start talking about it? Girls, how would you deal with this if I were your man and you thought we were never together enough as it is?Long distance relationship for a few years?
It is something you should discuss a lot.
Don't just apply and then I'll see. Situations like that seem to be easier to handle, but there are always traces of resentment that don't vanish. (Believe me, I have 22 yrs marriage, and things pop up after years!) The anger she might face at your deciding alone can bea major factor in breaking up in the future.
How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
How are you suppose to cope with a long distance relationship? How are you suppose to deal not seeing the person you're in love with only once a month? Are you just suppose to forget about them until you see them again, which is impossible. Are you suppose to distance yourself enough it doesn't hurt? I don't see how people do it, it hurts everyday. I'm always reminded he's not here everyday by one way or the other. Being two hours away and only seeing him once a month for the weekend sometimes its hard to even feel like a real girlfriend. I keep myself busy a lot and that helps, and we talk on the phone usually twice a day, and through IM's. But the closer I get to him the harder this is getting.This is just getting harder than I thought it'd be. I don't know, I'm probably taking this worse than he is, because I'm the girl, and apparently girls are more sensitive when it comes to things like this. I love him and want to stay in the relationship, I just want to handle the sepeartion..How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
-I've been in a long distance relationship, for almost three years. We only met during our second year anniversary. And with college, I'm now limited in seeing her often. We're planning to meet every 3-six months, so I envy you.
-What has helped us get through this is a lot of things. Webcams are long distance relationships bestest friend. My day is fulfilled when I see that smile on her face. We chat, and talk on the phone when we can. Nowadays. most computers come with mic's. So we use the mic, so we don't run up the phone bill. If you don't have one, buy one.
-Sending each other gifts, during certain events also helps. It explains how much you care. I like to send a letter with every package I send her. Just to express my love.
-The big thing that keeps us going is trust. Trust is a big factor in any relationship, but especially in long distance ones.
-I believe long distance relationships that do work, show far greater love than any relationship. Since you have to deal with so much more pain, and yet you survived it.How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
you have to ask yourself the simple question is the guy worth it.
you can't they never work out sry =(
sometimes they work they take a lot of work from both ends. but sometimes when you meet it can change things
everything depends on your love and trust for him
I have long distance relationship with my boyfriend.. And i'm worse than u.. I meet him once for half a year.. But our relationship is doing just fine.. :D
Communication and trust is a must.. We respect each other and we will not cheat..
The best way to cope with a long distance relationship is to treat it as such. You cannot have an intimate relationship with someone far away, and you cannot possibly expect life not to go on while your apart. Actually you can expect, but you won't get unless your okay with being lied to (most of the time, not every case). Its a strain that is very hard to maintain for a long time, usually someone breaks sooner or later. You've heard the saying long distant relationships don't work. They don't work because we try to work them as if they aren't long distance.
distance makes the heart go wander..
i feel lik u do i mean it feel bad i cry when i go to sleep but i no ill seee him soon
My boyfriend has been in Iraq for the last five months. It's hard, but I just take it one day at a time. It takes a special person to make a long-distance relationship work. Hang in there. Once a month isn't so bad.
Having a webcam is nice. Having plans to actually move to the same city at some definite point in the future is nice. Finding ways to see each other more often is nice. Sending each other little gifts by snail mail is nice. Having friends where you live and going out and doing stuff with them is nice.
In my experience long distance relationships never work, however, there may always be a first! And I wish you your happily ever after! All you can really do is talk to them as often as you can and try and find ways to meet up in your spare time. Or the other option is to break it off but if u really like this guy then that must seem like a stupid suggestion. I too wouldnt be happy if i was told that i couldnt see my boyfriend and even though i loved him i should break it off. So follow your heart and not your head and see where it takes you. Good Luck and i hope it all works out! xxx
-I've been in a long distance relationship, for almost three years. We only met during our second year anniversary. And with college, I'm now limited in seeing her often. We're planning to meet every 3-six months, so I envy you.
-What has helped us get through this is a lot of things. Webcams are long distance relationships bestest friend. My day is fulfilled when I see that smile on her face. We chat, and talk on the phone when we can. Nowadays. most computers come with mic's. So we use the mic, so we don't run up the phone bill. If you don't have one, buy one.
-Sending each other gifts, during certain events also helps. It explains how much you care. I like to send a letter with every package I send her. Just to express my love.
-The big thing that keeps us going is trust. Trust is a big factor in any relationship, but especially in long distance ones.
-I believe long distance relationships that do work, show far greater love than any relationship. Since you have to deal with so much more pain, and yet you survived it.How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
you have to ask yourself the simple question is the guy worth it.
you can't they never work out sry =(
sometimes they work they take a lot of work from both ends. but sometimes when you meet it can change things
everything depends on your love and trust for him
I have long distance relationship with my boyfriend.. And i'm worse than u.. I meet him once for half a year.. But our relationship is doing just fine.. :D
Communication and trust is a must.. We respect each other and we will not cheat..
The best way to cope with a long distance relationship is to treat it as such. You cannot have an intimate relationship with someone far away, and you cannot possibly expect life not to go on while your apart. Actually you can expect, but you won't get unless your okay with being lied to (most of the time, not every case). Its a strain that is very hard to maintain for a long time, usually someone breaks sooner or later. You've heard the saying long distant relationships don't work. They don't work because we try to work them as if they aren't long distance.
distance makes the heart go wander..
i feel lik u do i mean it feel bad i cry when i go to sleep but i no ill seee him soon
My boyfriend has been in Iraq for the last five months. It's hard, but I just take it one day at a time. It takes a special person to make a long-distance relationship work. Hang in there. Once a month isn't so bad.
Having a webcam is nice. Having plans to actually move to the same city at some definite point in the future is nice. Finding ways to see each other more often is nice. Sending each other little gifts by snail mail is nice. Having friends where you live and going out and doing stuff with them is nice.
In my experience long distance relationships never work, however, there may always be a first! And I wish you your happily ever after! All you can really do is talk to them as often as you can and try and find ways to meet up in your spare time. Or the other option is to break it off but if u really like this guy then that must seem like a stupid suggestion. I too wouldnt be happy if i was told that i couldnt see my boyfriend and even though i loved him i should break it off. So follow your heart and not your head and see where it takes you. Good Luck and i hope it all works out! xxx
How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
I have a boyfriend but he lives another state away, and we really like eachother and are great together but I really miss him and I don't get to see that often, he doesn't have a computer and our relationship is secret.
How do I deal with this?How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
sweetie i'm in the same shoes u are in... well my relationship isn't a secret my parents knos my sisters kno and everything... he lives in my old state we talk everyday..cuz we don't get to see eachother AT ALL!!... it sux yea i kno but this is wat i think of is that one day.. we will be in eachothers arms ..%26amp; if we can be strong than nothing i mean nothing can stand in the way not even another state...i kno it's not easy not being able to see eachother everyday.. ot talk ya kno.. but if u think bout it the longer its like that ur love for eachother will grow stonger cuz u'll miss eachother more and more each day..i use to be in the long distance thing like ALOT..but than i was like this isn't working for me intil the guy i am wit now.. he changce that for me i don't wanna be wit anyone besides him.. he lights up my day every time we talk...he makes me feel good about myself..%26amp; the one thing that he does for me is that he believes in me.. %26amp; thats wat matters the most in a relationship maybe not for u but for sum it does.. i kno it does for me... but u jus keep ur head high..and think bout the day u guys will be in eachother arms..How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
Dump him and get a guy who does have a computer.
there are thousands of guys just waiting for you to do this...
www.filipinaheart.com
why is it secret? everything gets a LOT easier if its not secret, so don't make it secret unless it has to be!
here's what you can do...
1) e-mail. this is a great way because only he can read your messeges. without a personal computer it can be hard, but many public libraries have computer access for people
2) phone. find times when no one will know, or just whenever if its not secret any more
3) mail! i think this is the best i still keep the letters a girl sent me a while back.
a long distance relationship requires a LOT of trust though, good luck!
JUst know that he has someone else also. So you should get some to keep you company until you can be with him.
Why is your relationship a secret? That's a warning sign right there... good relationships shouldn't have to be a secret. You aren't 10 and him 57, right??
First trust, second communication as much as possible in any form and third more trust.. Good luck!!
text love and ecp.
pop up on him
you can't, really they never work, sorry it's just the truth whether you chose to believe it or have to find out in the long run.
find a guy who lives closer to you
Have a short distance relationship going on at the same time.
I'm in a long distance relationship myself, and yes it is hard. Him not having a computer makes it more difficult. Both me and my boyfriend have computers so we talk online all the time. But I'd suggest talking on the phone as much as possible, write each other letters all the time, send each other pictures, and visit as much as you can. It's very important to communicate as much as possible since you can't see each other a lot. Keep each other updated on what's going on in your life, and make sure to be open and honest about everything. Long distance relationships can work, but it takes a lot of work on both parts.hair cut styles loan
How do I deal with this?How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
sweetie i'm in the same shoes u are in... well my relationship isn't a secret my parents knos my sisters kno and everything... he lives in my old state we talk everyday..cuz we don't get to see eachother AT ALL!!... it sux yea i kno but this is wat i think of is that one day.. we will be in eachothers arms ..%26amp; if we can be strong than nothing i mean nothing can stand in the way not even another state...i kno it's not easy not being able to see eachother everyday.. ot talk ya kno.. but if u think bout it the longer its like that ur love for eachother will grow stonger cuz u'll miss eachother more and more each day..i use to be in the long distance thing like ALOT..but than i was like this isn't working for me intil the guy i am wit now.. he changce that for me i don't wanna be wit anyone besides him.. he lights up my day every time we talk...he makes me feel good about myself..%26amp; the one thing that he does for me is that he believes in me.. %26amp; thats wat matters the most in a relationship maybe not for u but for sum it does.. i kno it does for me... but u jus keep ur head high..and think bout the day u guys will be in eachother arms..How do you cope with a long distance relationship?
Dump him and get a guy who does have a computer.
there are thousands of guys just waiting for you to do this...
www.filipinaheart.com
why is it secret? everything gets a LOT easier if its not secret, so don't make it secret unless it has to be!
here's what you can do...
1) e-mail. this is a great way because only he can read your messeges. without a personal computer it can be hard, but many public libraries have computer access for people
2) phone. find times when no one will know, or just whenever if its not secret any more
3) mail! i think this is the best i still keep the letters a girl sent me a while back.
a long distance relationship requires a LOT of trust though, good luck!
JUst know that he has someone else also. So you should get some to keep you company until you can be with him.
Why is your relationship a secret? That's a warning sign right there... good relationships shouldn't have to be a secret. You aren't 10 and him 57, right??
First trust, second communication as much as possible in any form and third more trust.. Good luck!!
text love and ecp.
pop up on him
you can't, really they never work, sorry it's just the truth whether you chose to believe it or have to find out in the long run.
find a guy who lives closer to you
Have a short distance relationship going on at the same time.
I'm in a long distance relationship myself, and yes it is hard. Him not having a computer makes it more difficult. Both me and my boyfriend have computers so we talk online all the time. But I'd suggest talking on the phone as much as possible, write each other letters all the time, send each other pictures, and visit as much as you can. It's very important to communicate as much as possible since you can't see each other a lot. Keep each other updated on what's going on in your life, and make sure to be open and honest about everything. Long distance relationships can work, but it takes a lot of work on both parts.
I need long distance relationship adivce?
Well, ive been in a long distance relationship for two years, as my then boyfriend now fiance went away to school. Even though i know its only two more months i feel like im at my end of dealing with this. Im so frustrated of being away from him. All i want to do is see him. We are both in school and on a budget so i can see him every weekend, like this one. For some reason , its just becoming harder and harder to be away from him. Like i know its just friday, but i have no classes on friday, so my weekend already started, but ive already cried because i cant see him. Even though im extremely busy with school because of midterms im still sad. I need help to try to get through this so that i stop crying every night. Can someone help?
look as said above, ive been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. All i want to know is how to deal with it now as i feel anxiety as i know it will end in 3 months and asI need long distance relationship adivce?
just keep doing you school work you do see him on the weekends so just try to put you work on getting done with school so you two can be together
look as said above, ive been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. All i want to know is how to deal with it now as i feel anxiety as i know it will end in 3 months and asI need long distance relationship adivce?
just keep doing you school work you do see him on the weekends so just try to put you work on getting done with school so you two can be together
Is anyone in the same situation as me? sorta as in a long distance relationship???
alright so ive been going out with my boyfriend for two weeks now. we go to different schools, and he lives the next city over .aha
um okay well it seems like he has had allot of girlfriends D: i didn't ask how many.
its hard having a boyfriend that allot of girls like , also live in different city's and go to a different school. see i dont like that because he has people that like him and a gf that he only gets to see once a week. i see him probably once or twice a week.
we barley talk during the week. we do but not allot. when i text him its hard to hold a conversation with him . ahah so do you have any ideas what to talk about. its just aqward right now because we just started going out.
is anyone in the same situation as me? sorta as in a long distance relationship. tell me how you deal with it ? and what do you talk about like over texts and on the phone when you dont see him/herIs anyone in the same situation as me? sorta as in a long distance relationship???
long distance has its own charm and mobile n internet can add flavour in itIs anyone in the same situation as me? sorta as in a long distance relationship???
Just always remeber, Absents makes the heart grow founder %26lt;3
When texting u should ask how's skool and what u guys wanna do during the weekend also try to see each other on holidays like valentine's day or halloween and spend time together. Hope it helps it did for me lol
um okay well it seems like he has had allot of girlfriends D: i didn't ask how many.
its hard having a boyfriend that allot of girls like , also live in different city's and go to a different school. see i dont like that because he has people that like him and a gf that he only gets to see once a week. i see him probably once or twice a week.
we barley talk during the week. we do but not allot. when i text him its hard to hold a conversation with him . ahah so do you have any ideas what to talk about. its just aqward right now because we just started going out.
is anyone in the same situation as me? sorta as in a long distance relationship. tell me how you deal with it ? and what do you talk about like over texts and on the phone when you dont see him/herIs anyone in the same situation as me? sorta as in a long distance relationship???
long distance has its own charm and mobile n internet can add flavour in itIs anyone in the same situation as me? sorta as in a long distance relationship???
Just always remeber, Absents makes the heart grow founder %26lt;3
When texting u should ask how's skool and what u guys wanna do during the weekend also try to see each other on holidays like valentine's day or halloween and spend time together. Hope it helps it did for me lol
How do i deal with problems in this relationship?
24F %26amp; 29M known each other for 6 years, serious relationship for 4, and long distance relationship for 1. They should be reuniting in an estimated 5 months, have been arguing constantly, Male is constantly complaining about being lonely n bored and wanting to be around a woman. Male is hard to deal with, doesnt listen, %26amp; selfish. Female is easy to get along with %26amp; simple. QUESTION IS: how can they make 5 months go smoothly with out loosing love for each other or cheating?How do i deal with problems in this relationship?
I've found through personal experience that long distance relationships don't last... that is if they're permanent or a really long time.
In this case if we're just talking five months here, then there is absolutely no reason why he should cheat. If he truly loves her then that just isn't an excuse. I mean cripes people go off to war going a year or more without being with their love. The guy sounds like he cant be trusted in general.
I've found through personal experience that long distance relationships don't last... that is if they're permanent or a really long time.
In this case if we're just talking five months here, then there is absolutely no reason why he should cheat. If he truly loves her then that just isn't an excuse. I mean cripes people go off to war going a year or more without being with their love. The guy sounds like he cant be trusted in general.
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