How can you make a long distance relationship work? please help?

just found out today my boyfriend will be transferred 3 states away for work. I'm in tears. We have only been dating for 6 months, but I really liked him. He's the first man who's ever treated me like someone special in my 24 years. He's so sweet, affectionate, complimentary, funny, and he makes me smile and laugh so much. I know we're not married or anything, but it hurts so bad. I know sh*t happens, but can this work out? I asked him if he could just tell me what he wants to do with us, like move on or make it work and such, but he won't even tell me right now. Should i just forget about it? It was only 6 months anyway, but I really felt like I found someone special when I met him. If you have dealt with this situation/long distance before, please let me know how to deal with this. I'm so sad. :( Everyone says long distance relationships don't work.How can you make a long distance relationship work? please help?
I had a long distance relationship for 4 and a half years. It works if you really want it to. Is this a temporary thing or a permanent thing? If it's permanent, you have a lot of thinking to do. If you think he really is ';the one'; (or possibly), start thinking ahead and see if you might actually want to move out there with him. You could always try the long distance thing for a year or so and then make the decision to move if that is more comfortable for you.





The problem with long distance is that most couples tend to drift apart. They develop lives without each other and when they get the opportunity to be together again for good, it falls apart because they're not used to it. You need to grow together, ya know?





Follow your heart. I fell in love with someone in California and I'm in Iowa. He dropped everything and moved here (2 months into us dating) and it was the best thing that ever happened to us. We've been together for several years and we're engaged. Soooo... take that as you will.How can you make a long distance relationship work? please help?
The way you make a long distance relationship work is you dont. If your boyfriend or girlfriend moves then thats his/her problem
by calling your partner most of the time. and you must spend time on the phone. make use of charting website to chart with you partner everyday, don't forget to write romantic sms to you partner telling him how much you love him.
when i met my bf 3 years ago we began our relationship as long distance and actually had trouble when we moved closer together. its ahrd to change the dynamic of a relationship, whether its moving closer or further away. 6 months is pretty significant, and while hes mulling over his options right now, thigns could go either way. the important thing to remember is that, if he doesntw ant to continue the realtionship, make it a clean break and dont try to keep in touch (you will be far enough away that that will be easy). if he decides he wants to stay together, then you work to make it work. as long as both parties put in an honest effort you can make long distance work. you can see him 2 weekends a month (theoretically speaking.) you drive out to see him one weekend, then you each have a weekend alone, an the next weekend its his turn to drive to see you for teh weekend. it may be a little bit of a drive, but if you drive right after work on friday and leave sunday afternoon, it should give you a good amount of time together. jsut amke sure that your visiting time is you two time, and not time to see his buddies back home. he would have to come home a separate weekend to do that. so yes....i think they can work, but both individuals have to be 100 percent in! good luck. let him know how you feel but also let him know that its his decision at this point, and you understand if he doesnt have it in him to make it owrk.
Try reading this free e-book called 97 steps to a happy relationship. I've read it (a while ago) and I still think about the advice given in it.
Sometimes they are doomed, sometimes they work, give it a chance and see. Talk with him about what to do....but wait a few days since he's probably also shocked and upset about the move and probably busy figuring out where he will live and how he will move all his stuff there etc.


Both of you could make plans to visit each other and also figure out ways to keep in touch. (Ex: get a webcam). Maybe you will end up going to school near where he is or moving there or he will move back near where you are.....but take things one step at a time for now.
I think if he makes you feel different special give him a chance to reply! And if he doesn't say anything then leave him he isn't worth it obviously he isn't THE ONE!!!! Hope thos helps! And good luck! ;-)