How do you deal with a long distance relationship?

im 18 and my boyfriend is 20....we've known eachother for 5 years and have been dating on and off for 3 years now...





my boyfriend is here right now (just really busy all the time), but this summer (from may til august) he'll be gone. and he wont be able to call me or anything. thats three months with no contact.....then by the time he gets home, i'll be leaving for college (only 3 hours away, but we wont see eachother as much)





how are you supposed to handle long distance relationships? how do you handle not seeing your boyfriend for long periods of time without going crazy? i'm completely head over heels for him and i need to find a way to make it work...How do you deal with a long distance relationship?
Long distance relationships, even when you do have frequent contact and visits, are unbelievably hard. You basically have to rework your whole relationship--how you communicate, how you relate to each other, how you share things. They can work (I'm in a great one right now), but it's really, really hard.





But there are a few things you can do to help your relationship feel alive even when you can't be in touch. One is keep a journal. Just write down the things you would have told him if you could see him every day. Ask him to do the same, and then exchange them when you do see each other again. It really helps you to catch the other person up on what's going on in your life, and kind of makes you feel like you've been talking to them all along.





When you're away from each other but in contact, it's really important that you stay in touch constantly in little ways. Text messages are great, just so you both know that you're thinking about each other. And longer talks often too, so you can chat about where your relationship is going--what's working, what's not.





But you will go crazy. You will go apeshit crazy. No matter what, these things are tough.How do you deal with a long distance relationship?
I really believe that successful long distance relationships are like the tooth fairy or Santa Claus.... Doesn't exist but we believe in them in the beginning.





I tried it and it ended up hurting so bad that it will take a lot for me to consider doing that again. And being jealous had something to do with it but mostly it is missing the other person so much that seemed paralyzing at times.





Im in the Army so Im presented with this dilemma alot.
Just do your best to keep really busy and productive.





Oh! and do your best to avoid all romantic comedies or mushy chick flicks!





If you go into it with the mindset that you're going to make it work and that you're not just ';seeing if it'll work';, it'll help a lot! Most long distanvce relationships don't work because the couple goes into them saying ';we'll just see how we do and figure it out from there';. Go in with a positive attitude and try to continually remind yourself that you're going to make it and you're doing the right thing!





GOOD LUCK!!!
Long distance relationships are hard. However, if you both love each other and really want it to work, then it will be a lot easier to get through. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half and we both go to different colleges. Being away is hard, but when you get to see the other person, it makes the time together ten times better! It takes a lot of patience and just know that you both love each other and that should help you get by everyday.
I'm in a long distance relationship right now. It is SO hard not having him here with me physically! However, I talk to him every night and that helps. He makes me laugh, we talk when he was here/I was there, the next time we will be with each other, etc. I'm just curious why he wont be able to contact you for the entire 3 months? That would be hard on anyone! If you all love each other, you will make it work or find some way for it to work!
ugh i know its horrible im going through it now. ive actually been dealing with it since last summer. during the summer we had absolutely no contact i just tried to find things that could occupy my time. hes now back but we go to two different schools that are like an hour apart. we talk to each other whenever we can and make sure we see each other on the weekends and holidays. i know it can be hard but if you really care for someone you find a way to make it work. hope this helps. good luck.
how u deal with it? cheat on him and he'll be so damn annoyed that he'll come back :P and then he'll be like honey, im back, don't cheat anymore. believe me it works...


and if he ends up doing the same thing...well.... just be cheat-lovers


it works... :)
i know it seems extremely complicated.


but remember that if hes the right person, then it'll just work.





it has to,


thats what love is about.
you found the way to make it work, you know it. you are completely head over heels for him. it is will. love knows no boundaries. no distances.
text? email? plan future vacation together to look forward to.
ugggg...don't ask me...i went through the same thing %26amp; it was horrible :-/
To stay sane in a long distance relationship: you keep yourself busy to make the time fly before you see each other again.





Stay busy - work, study, pick up a hobby, play a game, go out with friends and family, exercise. Get out of the home and don't mope.





Set a goal - put your deadline down on the calendar and count down towards it. You have a goal and a positive outcome to help battle the gloomy days. Look forward to it and watch the days fly!





Create a welcome back package - write a journal, some letters, draw some cartoons, create a gift pack for him. Anything that you can do for him to keep you busy that you can give him when you next see him.





Communicate in any way possible - if not phone calls, then SMS or emails, or even old fashioned snail mail: postcards or letters. Or again, write letters in a journal to give to him when he returns.





And when you go out, you'll feel the blues, but hang in there. You have someone special out there that you'll see again soon, so enjoy your time with your friends and you'll be back together again before you know it.