I'm also worried that he will hardly make it there and I'm scared cuz things will never ever be the same. Please give me advice on moving, coping, and your experience.How did you deal with your long distance relationship? I have few Questions.?
my boyfriend lived in Virginia while I lived in Seattle for an entire year. It was extremely hard on me, I'm a very jealous person. Now, we've been together for four years and we live together.
What I loved about a long distance relationship is right before you saw the person for the first time in a few months, you'd get all nervous and when you kiss them it's like the first time all over again! Everything is fresh, you get to show him all your new favorite things, etc.
I think that you need to relax, every couple is different. Maybe you'll work, maybe you won't. You clearly care about this man and you have made your point clear. I agree with you, he shouldn't move to L.A., but maybe he needs to really struggle to get some motivation. Let him do his thing, if he doesn't go, he'll always wonder and blame you for it. (Probably not)
I hope that things work out between you two, it sounds like you really care about him. You have a good head on your shoulders. If he screws up in L.A., you can't say that you didn't try. Good luck with school and your boyfriend :)How did you deal with your long distance relationship? I have few Questions.?
been in LDR for 1 1/2 year now
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I only have one question,,, what makes him so certain that he will be happier there??/ Does he have a job lined up?? does he have a place to live ?? Or does he think that he will be happier living with his parents then trying to make a life for himself??? OK so that was more tha one question but I think you get my point... Either way it is appearent that you are not on the top of his list of'; the things he wants'; Think about it,,,,,,,,, Good Luck
im in the LR for 21 month now, we are in the different country. its hard to not to knw whats going on w him. i often think that he is with girls in the city, found some love,... these thoughts drive me crazy. only thing is trust him. trust even if pple say how stupid you are to trust someone who lives 1000000 miles away.
i dnt knw how old you are bt my advise, go with him. lovers shouldnt be a part. they need to stay together.
long distance nva rly works srryy...hope u can make it work tho
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Long distance never works! It is better to play the field.
sorry i hope things work out for you.
I was in a 3 year (on and off) long distance relationship about 4 years ago...he lived in NY and lived in CA. We both had great jobs and made decent money to fly back and forth. The distance was just too much to manage and neither of us were willing to take our relationship to the next level and relocate.
You're right, things will never be the same. We were on and off because our lives became different. We did care for eachother deeply and it probably would have worked if we lived closer in distance, but we both had to look to where we wanted to take our lives going forward. I didn't want to leave my life here and neither did he.
Long distance relationships are difficult and a test of true love. I give props to people who stay together and make it work. My experience made me realize that I didn't love him that much to compromise. Since then I met someone who actually lived down the street from me...we're planning a marriage for next year.
Go with the flow and make sure you listen to yourself first and everything will work out.
Good luck :)
Almost all of my four years of college was long distance relationships. People put too much emphasis on the distance. Some things I did were buy him sweet cards just because, write him a poem, make him a collage, he came to visit me sometimes and vice versa, we fell asleep on the phone once in awhile. We talked online via myspace %26amp; aim. Who knows, maybe the distance will make your relationship stronger. Have an amazing last day together until you two will meet again. I recently graduated from college %26amp; finally came home to my man. Things are great!
Your boyfriend might think that if things don't work out for him in LA, his parents will be there so he'll be fine. Maybe he just wants to be close to his parents. He can get a job without a college degree. If he is an intelligent person he will compare the cost of living in LA to that of somewhere in Ohio. The move doesn't sound too smart if you he is already struggling, but that is his decision, there is nothing anyone can do to change his mind.
As for you, coping may start out difficult. It is totally acceptable to be sad at first, it shows you care. Over time, you will get used to it, but you have to do things to keep the relationship alive and so does he. I wish you the best of luck!
my boyfriend is leaving for college 8 hours from me, in approximately a month. I'm soooo sad, but I try to just think about the time that I have left here with him and it makes things a little better. I try and spend as much time with him now as i possibly can. Also...think about things you can do while he's away. You can send him things in the mail for surprises, or fly down to see him.
You'll have to make sure that you're both committed to making it work or it won't. Also, you can't doubt your relationship or you'll start having issues and that wouldn't be good for either of ya'll.
I try and think about how things will be after I'm finally able to move where he is. We've both talked about marriage and about our lives together once I've moved, and that makes me happy. It makes me eagerly anticipate the future and also reminds me that he cares enough for me to want to marry me some day. I can't see myself being with anyone but him and it helps to know he feels the same.
Good Luck! =)
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