How do u deal with a long distance relationship?

im 14 and i have a long distance relationship with a girl in Connecticut and i live in philly. i have seen pictures we video chat and everything and shes 15 she makes my heart skip a beat all the time we talk i love her but shes long distance and i want to go to connecticut so i can meat her what do i do?How do u deal with a long distance relationship?
Oh that is adorable! CT girls are IT really so I understand but honey you have to just keep your options open- your age and location make it a little hard for you two to have a long distance relationship. You will meet many girls and I don't think the smartest thing to do for both of you wouldn't be to remain exclusive to someone you know through cyber space- it wouldn't be fair to both of you to not be able to experience young flings because you're trying to make this work.This might be the girl you decide to end up with but I think that you should let about 4 more years go by and then you are able to be more mobile and have more of a sense of who you are!How do u deal with a long distance relationship?
You are in a common problem in this age of the internet. At fourteen, will your parents give you permission to go to Connecticut? If you take a trip without their permission, you will face not only the disappointment of meeting her but the anger of your parents who will not be happy to know you are 150 miles from home.





Also, how do you know that the girl is even real? Anybody can chat and post pictures. Anyway, as a Philadelphian myself, I know there are a million wonderful and adorable girls right in the neighborhood.





Talk all you want on line, enjoy it, but wait until you are older to start traveling cross-country to meet someone you do not really know. What if she is a 55 year old male pedophile?
Have you met her IRL or is your relationship just online?





I married my long-distance sweetheart. So I'm living proof that it can work. On the other hand, we were a good bit older (18 and 19) when we met, and we met IRL before carrying on the relationship online.





If you've never actually seen her face-to-face, then you're dealing with an internet relationship, not a long distance one. It can still be real and true (I've got close friends that I knew for years online before meeting them) but it's different from a ';long distance'; relationship.
i had a long distance relationship (but it was only 2hrs away) and i broke up with him


think about it


when are you ever gonna see each other


and since you're only 14 and she's 15, are your parents gonna let you go out by yourselves and hang out, or let the other person stay the night or something??? chances are, prolly not


i would break up with her


or something cuz it's pointless
i kinda agree with the people below me


but they might be older.im your age. i know what you mean


but have you met her before/


if not then do not go!


and i highly doubt it will work


so just give it up.


and break up with her


you guys can still talk just not as bf and gf


it would be best.im telling you!
just talk to her





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Do yourself a favour and meet somebody closer to home. You will save yourself a lot of grief in the long run.
OMG! I'm also in a long distance relationship, I live in Michigan and he lives in Hong Kong! the other side of the earth! well, heres some advice on how to make a long distance relationship work!


1Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged) as well as defining exclusive (limited to one person,) or non-exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: ';Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?'; or ';What are you looking to get out of the relationship?'; Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need2Do things together. Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... People in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously. Here's a list of over 80 things long distance couples can do together from a distance.


3Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Remember that e-mail and even instant messengers can increase the possibility of misunderstandings. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted!


4Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together. Here are additional benefits of long distance relationships.


5Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.


6Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match - or someone else is a better match - your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.


7Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.


8Remember: Things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.


9Visit often. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone call. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some ';rules'; about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help an LDR survive.


10Avoid jealousy and be t