How to deal with a long distance relationship with certain dillemas?

I am a soldier about to be deployed for a very long time because of someone in the white house, and I have found a very special girl who I treasure a alot. I won't get to see her again for about 6 months after 2 more months. I have known her for 4 months. We met online and she called me and a couple months later I went and saw her and was all intimite with her. We both agreed we loved each other and we wanted a long distance relationship to work. I am about to go see her again and make it very special before I leave, but lately our phone conversations have been very boring. We play games over the phone to get to know each other and read journal entries to take our relationship farther, but she still is a wild one and goes out to bars with her friends. I do the same but am usually the designated driver. My question is, how do I make our relationship stay strong online and over the phone? Shes like no other girl I found before and I really want to keep her but my situation is jaded. TYHow to deal with a long distance relationship with certain dillemas?
Well, before you're deployed I'd have a seriouos conversation with her about trust and the level of relationship that you two both agree you're in. If you both chose to be intimate then that takes your relationship to a next level, but if you can't trust her because she goes to bars etc. - then you may have a big problem while you're gone.


If she really is special - she'll call you and e-mail you and web cam with you while you're away - this military is very lucky that way with this war.


Ask her why she thinks the phone conversations have been boring - is it because you, too had more of a physical attraction and are learning you don't have a lot in common?


If that's the case that's not good either - you want to have at least enough in common so you can be friends, too.








If for whatever reason something happens and this relationship doesn't work out - don't fret - you seem like a nice person who is concerned - long distance though, no matter what is tough - it's always best to be close to the person you really love - (i mean the online dating part, not your deployment.)





btw if she truly loves you - then she will be there for you when you return - and during the time that you're gone - trust is a big thing. Most bases have family affairs depts. to help out with this - even if it's a gf and not a wife. Both equally as important.





best to you and thanks for serving our country.


K CHow to deal with a long distance relationship with certain dillemas?
im in a long distance relationship too and sometimes we get so bored on talking to the net for hours.its up to you how to save uo your relatioship.some say thoe people who can handle long distance are those people who are hopelessly romantic.sometimes talking everyday the same thing makes the fure burn out so give time and space to grow as different individuals , when she has girls night out it doesnt mean she loves you less and if you enjoy yourfelf too when you go out withh your boy pals it doesnt mean that your cheating on her already..take this opportuniy to have sometthing to talk about over the phone. i mean when you called her after your noght out you can tell her what happened apr maybe the silliest thing you see while on road or whatever things that you can make her laugh.





:)